Dear all! I have 2 kids under 6 years of age. My inlaws have never accepted me into home as family member as I had love marriage. They did not want DH to marry me due to their money expectations from bride. I have always gotten outsider alien treatment from them..as if I dont exist. SIL did not let her kids talk to me, everytime I used to ask or her kids to mingle and play with them, she used to feel insecure and jealous as the little ones were fond of me..Now its been 12 years, they have grown up and hardly call me 'Aunt'/Mami...There have been countless other issues with them that I tried to sort amicably with goal of having harmony in family. I was doing Ph.D when all these were happening which affected my studies..my health and my overall personality changed from bubbly confident girl to depressive low motivating person. I tried to distance them by talking less, they complained about it..if I talked to them, they would make sure they hurt me by comments/basically to mentally keep on torturing me..now I have kids..They want to just talk to them..SIL is asking for them as if they are her kids....when she did not share her kids with me, how can she claim right on my kids who are my flesh and blood? this has completely made me angry and depressed....FIL says past is past....12 years of pain agony, polite requests on this FIL to let me mingle with SIL kids fell on deaf ears and now he says very easily past is past..... I have been completely ruined by this family..they affected my studies, personality, and now want to have my kids...FIL wants them back in India to let them stay with SIL while I try for jobs here....obviously DH and I refused...DH younger brother and his wife (co-sister) have also been very mean to us...They body shame me..In the past one year, I took proactive steps to be distant with them which has improved my mind stability, I also lost weight and look much better...everytime I come in front of them on webcam, they make sure do something that mentally upsets me/fights with DH and so I have not refused to go on webcam..kids are young they dont want to sit in front of camera...and basically they dont seem to be interested in talking to anybody on camera, they have friends here to play with..TV/activities etc....My FIl also has all of ours birthtime and even went to say that since I am going to have some major problems soon, I may die also so I should let kids stay with SIL to encourage bonding...I have told DH if something happens to me, my last wish is to have kids with him always....SIL also is not loving my kids..they all have ulterior motives....How can my FIL say and do things like that..? Even if some bad time period is shown on horoscope, it is up to GOD to decide ..I am perfectly healthy person so far.... Please advise on how to handle my FIL who is being gas lighted by SIL /BIL for mentally harassing me like this..I want to live my life peacefully going forward...Thank you all in advance!