I'm going mad think of it help me friends

pls transit to english. u may get some replies and that may help u. all the best.

 

Dear Vani.
Read this...it might help.
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/singles-world/216977-red-flags-singles-should-not.html

 

stop panicking.. neeku nee meeda nammakam undali... u shud trust ur judgement skills..

also there are many road accidents, train accidents in the country... it doesnt mean that u r not walking on the road or travel....

dont be scared of FEW bad scenarios.. rather look around and try to see some good couple around u.. understand and assess what makes them happy.. how they have been happy...

come out with ur list of wants and needs from ur better half and discuss with the prospective grooms before u make a decision...

have confidence and stop panicking at all the bad news that u read in news papers...

 

Hi Vani098,

Well, as they say, future is uncertain and so are marriages. Where many girls experience the ugly side of being in a committed relationship, in marriage....there are still many for whom marriage has been a very beautiful experience of their life.

It's important to correctly select your would be with decent researches, word of mouth experiences, taking appropriate precautions, knowing each other well, but none of these can or will ever guarantee that things at your end will go smooth or not.

So, narrowing down things, I would eventually come to the point that everything depends on how you take things forward with your would be spouse. Show your complete commitment, show your true feelings, love and all you can expect is a little good, a little support and a little love from your partner. Understand, not everybody is bad in nature. There are also good people around who value a person's emotions.

So, all the very best for the marriage proposals coming your way. I wish you get a very nice groom for yourself and you have a very beautiful married life.

 

True. It is scary these days.

Some points which I would suggest:

- As per Indian tradition, it was very common that we used to find our partner from related families. So we know their background, lifestyle , type of personality etc. It is also possible to do 360 degree scan through other relatives. So the risk factor is less.

- If the proposal is from an unknown family, never do things in a hurry. Take your time to find the details of them via various routes. It is very important to cross check the nature of the groom from his college-mates. ( Work place colleagues have formal relationships and may not know him completely. But the college / school friends knows in and out of his character )

- When a proposal comes, check their attitude. Some people are more keen to discuss about your wealth, properties and dowry. Have an open and honest talk with the boy. Never try to buy anyone with money. It will last only until the money lasts..then they will ask again for more money. This cycle will continue until his burial. Reject such people.

-Have an open talk with the boy about his expectations. Tell your expectations about him. If it matches go to the next step. It is always better to find a partner with similar family background , similar educational qualification.

Wish you all the Best.

 

Dont lose your sleep for this. There are natural disasters, wars, and flight accidents everywhere. At least one or two of such burning cases will be reported in the media on a daily basis. Does that mean we must stop living or losing our sleep over them?

There are marital problems, and other problems in life too. Take it as it comes. That doesn't mean you should enter into a marriage with closed eyes. Just like taking precautions to health and other matters of lives, do the same for marriage as well. Now a days, it is better to keep your eyes and ears wide open. More so, trust your instincts, and go for a marriage only for LOVE, and not for other things like dowry, job, cast, culture, etc..etc..etc... Let your parents look for their wants, but you look only for LOVE.

 

Hey vani..
U r right..v hav to think 1000000..times.. I dnt knw evrytng bt let me tell u sumthng which I got to knw frm my own experience. .
Trust ur parents..cz vala kante great ga evru ne gurinchi think cheyleru...ok..
Even after mrge..make sure that u shud b in touch regularly with ur parents,siblings,relatives,also friends.. dont rely upon ur spouse. .
Ante ne kalla meda nuv nilabadali and nee valu andaru dagarlo undela chusko..
Abroad match vaste chala investigation chesi gani ok cheyodhu...and most importantly dont believe anyone easily excpt ur parents..b bold to say 'no' if u find anythng that bothers u with ur would b...even after engagement. .ok..
Evrytng vl b fine..dont wry..all the very best to u..