ILs moving to abroad-Tips needed to build realtionship with DH

Dear CoolPinky

Good that you two have got time for yourself..

Try cooking his favourite dishes.
Try dressing good (most men like women in sarees)
Plan for romantic dinners in week-ends.
Sit and watch a movie together (even if its @ home)
Ask about his work, his friends, his interests.
Try discussing topics of his interest.
When he is in good happy mood, tell him, what you like in him,
check what he likes and doesnt like in you, tell him how you feel
and what corrections in him makes you more happy..

All the best, use this time best, to bond with him.

 

most importantly, do not talk about the previous fights with him or ILs...Enjoy the time
good luck.

 

Don't know how many of you will like it, this is what I sometimes do, when DH and me are in good mood and getting cuddly...

I talk to him about our very distant future, many times. If he complains my food tastes bland, I tease him I'm rehearsing for his old age, when he won't be able to digest spicy food. When he watches too much TV and I don't, I say I'm saving my eyesight for old age so that when his eyes will be weak, I'll watch TV and narrate him everything. During all my pointless chatter, I try to imagine what will our old age be like. Point is, that we are going to be together even when no one else will be with us.

Maybe u can try it, now that only you two are together. Of course, don't just say it, mean it too. Maybe he will slowly start realizing that there will come a time when he will really need you, that both of you cannot do without each other. And start treating you not as an outsider, but something as close as his heart.

I'm still hoping it will dawn upon my DH one day...........

 

Pinky Dear...very very very happy for you....

first of all.. very good news.... before you plan anything for your DH... first prep you mind.... This is the most precious time for you to be with your DH alone..... be very firm... that you will NOT talk or think anything about your MIL. Even though if she is on call with him or you.. make sure that ... that 5 min call doesnt waste your entire lone time with your DH and scre* your mind, peace and happiness.

Let everything go easily and dont force plan anything. In this entire 2 months, do NOT expect anything back from your DH. Let him feel the king of the house while you being the queen. Cook special dishes for him, dress very nicely even while home. Get some se*y lingerie and have fun. have some movies handy and watch them.

Point is...... you GOT TO make him realise how life is (beautiful) even WITHOUT his darling mommy.

I wish you all the happiness you want in these 2 months.

And remember... its a free time for your hubby as well.... so even if you dont like to do what he wants... just join him and cherish that moment of togetherness.

And make these 2 things as your motto to be kept in mid daily.. so that you do not spoil your most enjoyable time of life
1. No matter what your MIl says.. IGNORE and FORGET. Do not let it effect your happiness.
2. Do NOT talk about your MIL with your DH, even if he does talk about your Mom. Again Ignore and FORGET.

Good Luck!!

 

hey i have been enjoying that bliss time since few months i know how you might be feeling .. in first 2mnths we had these EXTREME fights..and everytime it was mil or my parents ..
from then i made a promise to myself i would not talk about my parents or his family and especialy mil..
this is what i have done all these months

pampered him like anything and tried and still trying hard to control my nagging habit ..
make this 2months time soo speacial that he would crave for more..all d very best
preparing food
keep a pleasant environment always even if theres a fight
look after his smalest of needs
and shower him with his favorite gifts without any occasion
plant a kiss before he goes to office
get ready in his favorite attire and look fresh by d time he comes home.and remember always smell good.
and weekend outings or go for an evening walk daily if he has time
or even night walk for few minutes is very romantic (hold his hand)
take one day and by d time he comes home decorate your bedroom so that it reminds him of your first night(it really works candles,rose petals,dim lights,white bed and your first night saree )use your imagination
and you can try sexy nightdress if your daring enough..

 

Even years of bonding by living alone 1000s of miles away from mil can be broken by a single India visit.

And just like you, she would have already made plans to prevent the bonding

The best situation would be when he understands the real nature of his mom.

Until then he will enjoy the royal treatment from you when she is not around and run back to her when she is back.

 

pinky...
Wahtever it is guys will pretend as if they dod not enjoy this time ( sometimes..though they like it at heart)
and upon ILs return he might also try to prove - Im the ame as the time you left.

As everyone said - dont speak anything ba or about past experiance.. just live in the house as if you are in a resort!
all have given good advices.

 

Wow, more than anything - CONGRATS GIRL!!! banana

Amazing time to bond with your hubby! Everyone has given enough ideas, but make sure you judge your DH's mood and use each idea wisely at the right time!!!

P.S. Don't be over enthusiastic for the first few days, or mommas boy might feel that you are happy his darling mom went away!!! :-D You get it, right??