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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Dreamer, Apr 25, 2023.

  1. Dreamer

    Dreamer Silver IL'ite

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    Thank you for your reply. They can pick up small excuses to quarrel which then goes into the silent treatment zone which I absolutely hate. I do try to reason with my wife but she somehow sides with her mom and sister.
     
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    If you have done anything wrong( why your wife supports them. Looks like she dont agree with your behavior ), saying sorry is the way to go. If you think you are right and its unfair, then @Rihana tip and not acknowledging silent treatment ( talk if needed) but maintaning a distance, being happy ( they expect you to suffer)is the best reply. Next time, if they start quarel walk away after saying not interested to fight. I dont understand why you need to quarel with them . There are ways to calmly express difference of opinion. I think your wife think its lack of respect towards her mother and sister and you live in their home. Thats why, I guess.
     
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    Dreamer Silver IL'ite

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    Thank you so much for your replies. I really find it interesting that they probably like to see me suffer. I will try and practice more self care. Am an expert at meditating already :)
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    Brilliant. OP OUGHT to Force happiness on himself to Keep sadists in turmoil and at bay.
     
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    Are your in-laws living in your house or are you living in their house?
     
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    focus on your career , health . some battles cannot be won.

    Like it or Not , men should not lose their self respect. that does not mean violence. Yes we can argue on this for multiple pages, but it is how it is in most of the households.

    have a talk with your spouse, that this is your life together, if she is ok in living a bad experience and then regretting after 20 years, fine - it is on her at that time.

    it is better to move out.
     
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    No . You will not be talking like this after another 15 yrs.

    Good you are looking outside for feedback.

    But if this continues , may be you need to take a hard discussion on moving out or separation.

    It is good and noble for anyone to respect others, but that does not at the cost of your own self respect. There is a difference between being kind and taking unnecessary abuse.
     
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    I live in their house.
     
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    Agreed. I have talked about moving out many times but there are some strong reasons why we can't do so.
     
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    Thanks for the suggestion. It has not come to the point where I'd lose my patience and if it does, I am always ready to walk out.
     
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