I too made a list !

Blondie · Oct 12, 2007

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Ladies,
thanks to all who spilled your thoughts and amde my day. Nice to knwow I am not alone. But even when I enjoy my kids and their activities, spending/listending to hubby's finance-politics-and other speech (I call it speech because though I am physically present mentally totally absent, as these do not get into my head, just knodding and smiling without any particiapation). Even though I do all these, at the back of my mind, I will be constantly thinking of house-cleaning. Not so much in action, because my husband just like Mr. Vysan doesn't want to make the house a museum.
So these days, I have decided to take a break for atleast 1-2 days from work, just for myself and the things I want to do. I don't pack even lunches for them, I do manicure and hair care and everything one day and add alittle bit shopping for the house, decorate it. check my gardents etc. You won't beleive the amount of satisfaction I get doing that. Not guilty that I am not spending time with them at all because husband is at work, and child is at school, all the time for myself without guilt . Try it ladies, you will feel rejuvenated.

If your home, it does not mean, you have to clean to cook and cooked so clean the whole day. Do soemthing for yourself. You deserve it afterall. Put yourself on the list, only you just one day. It works... beleive me.

P.S.
AC may be choose a Friday for yourself, dress up, go to temple and see. May be those ladies did that. right??
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Pia,
Mon. thru Fri (week days ) i am impeccably dressed and devote a lot of time to myself but it is the week end phenomenon that AC has mentioned that throws all the lists, beauty regimen out the window where as all other ladies (who come to temple in AC's case and soccer moms in my case ) seem to maintain it. How do they do it? On weekends my priority is making breakfast for my family, see that they eat it as well as get the house work, grocery, laundry done before noon so that I can be at games in afternoon( will never miss it) as well as have a nap and be ready for the party in the evening (which is even extending to friday nights now a days.... with a very large family and friends circle 104 weekend days in a calender year are not enough).

Yes we do have lists of things to be done every single day, but on weekend daytime being presentable does not seem to be an agenda on the list, since that time we love to devote to husband, kids. So in the end we turn up with zero fashion sense ( this is what chitra's post was about) but the happy faces compensates more than enough.:tongue

Yes it is OK for me to be with zero fashion sense on weekends so that I can spend some more time with my family than in front of the mirror. (it takes just 30 seconds to be dressed in the first out fit that is there in the closet and you can finish your bath under 5 minutes so total 5.5 min to zip out of the home to the soccerfields.)

priyauc · Oct 12, 2007

Hi LADIES, THIS IS A GOOD READ. YES SPENDING QUALITY TIME WITH HUSBAND AND CHILD ARE THE BEST THINGS ONE CAN DO. I TOO DONT BOTHER TO LEAN UP ON WEEKENDS, EVEN THOUGH IT NAGS ME AT THE BACK OF MY MIND.I LOVE TO KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN, BUT NOW WITH MY BABY IT LOOKS THE SAME BEFORE I CLEAN AND 2 HRS AFTER I CLEAN.BUT THE TIME SPENT WITH THEM IS IRREPLACEABLE.WE TOO JOT DOWN POINTS WHAT TO SPEAK TO OUR PARENTS OR SIBLINGS, BEFORE AN INTERNATIONAL CALL,LEARNT FROM MY MOM...

puni88 · Oct 13, 2007

Hello Ladies,
In my case... I have no time to think about time... so there is no question about quality time for the family.
It is just like a time table life...
I hate weekends for its being so hectic with kids activies, groceries, cooking, cleaning etc.

~Punitha

Anandchitra · Oct 13, 2007

Dear Punitha
I have a friend who shares your name with u. Why do you say you are leading a timetable life? Hope yu do get a break now and then.

Shanvy · Oct 15, 2007

anandchitra said: ↑

Last sunday when I went to our temple in the morning I went through my usual rush. So when I arrived there I was to see these groups of women so beautifully dressed wearing fine and grand jewllery and relaxing.
Everyone around me seemed so efficent. These ladies I thought always looked so neat and well dressed and their houses gleamed from top to bottom. So I figured I am doing something wrong. So why did I rush that morning which
is normal for me and not unusual at all. I did get up early (thanks to bed coffee provided by dearest husband) o.k. I did brush my teeth before drinking ???!!!! I then caught up with my exercise walk then watered my rose garden cleaned the kitchen, put more clothes for laundry took bath prayed made breakfast that my husband likes prepared lunch that my family likes and OMG
its time to run so took the first dress from closet and ran out of the door to my temple where I conduct our Balshala teaching children slokas our culture etc. So my rush.So I thought to myself I will become efficent and what do efficent persons do they make a LIST.
Yes I will make my list too. First on my list ( at this point its still a mental list as no time to write) I will make my son water the plants and pick up his clothes and clean and my husband will not mess up my dining table with all his office work. So a very very determined me returned home just ready to
implement what I thought was an efficent list to become a more efficent me. Now I too can compete with all these people I see and my home to will be
spotless and gleaming. My dining table is going to be spotless and living room will be spotless, clutterless and no mess at all. As soon as I walked in through the door my husband and son came rushing to greet me (iwas gone one hour and half) and said they enjoyed the special food I had cooked for them and they had cleaned up the kitchen for me and they had done a host of other
things too. I ofcourse smiled and grinned and proceeded to remove my slipper when I noticed that many other slippers were lying on the ground and not on the rack. as I walked through dining room I saw the table cluttered with papers
and laptop and living room had my sons homework papers around. Oh my LIST. so I opened my mouth to tell (YELL) at H and S to clean this and that when they watching football asked me to come and sit with them and made
space in between. As soon as I sat down (still with mouth open you know to tell or Yell about my list) my husband went and fixed me lunch and son brought water and they both asked me to relax. Ofcourse the list was fading and as I ate I thought what was more important in my list. spending time with my family and their love and affection moved from bottom of list to top. I figured its ok for dining table to be cluttered or something else not spotless but I had what was important for me. So now I live with my new list . Do you think I did wrong????
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hI AC,

No nothing wrong in what you did. quality time with family is the most important thing in my list. As chitramam says there was no quality/quantity time when we were young. now with times things are changing. kids are out of the house by 7.30 they come back by 4.30. then some classes..then dinner and sleep.

For me weekends are time that is completely devoted to my family. i plan my work spread it over the week. i finish the uniforms, the grinding, the cleaning in the week. weekend is for my kids and my husband. We talk, we have a movie fun. there are no elaborate meals on weekend. if at all we entertain in the weekend it will be on saturday. so sunday is only for family.

my family does not bother much about being spic and span. and my health is also an excuse at times.. but i do my best.

Jaishree123 · Oct 15, 2007

Hi All,
I sometimes think a lot about this making lists and being organized.
then I feel quality time and quantity time and all this kind of terminology.
I completely agree with chitra ji, being organized comes from within, we dont have to do any extra effort if we do everything in the right way and then and there.
I just console my mind that i m right and i have a small baby and im working so its ok for me. then when i visit my friends, whose houses are very clean and who maintain themselves neat and clean all the time I start thinking again.
May be I m not capable like them..I dont know sometimes I feel I d ont have the creativity in decorating the house and I m good for nothing.
I m really confused but I m happy to see so many other people like me.

Thanks & Regards
Jaishree

Kamalji · Oct 15, 2007

Chitraji,

Written from the heart.Wonderful.Yes love is first, and cleaniness comes later.REgards.kamal

achu · Oct 15, 2007

HI LADIES,
a very interesting thread ...i support chitvish ma'm, i put a list - for all my " to do things" ...this i developed during my college des - i list my things - even to pack my bag -which starts from tooth brush,comb ,etc ! etc! -i just dont wanna forget anythg eh n even now i carry a list - things 2 b purchased -when i go for shopping. i feel this reduces my temptations 2 get unnecessary things ie., i just avoid peeping into the sections, which i havent mentioned in my list.....
even nw, i've put up a list n pasted on my pc stand- thats for my hubby - he has gone 2 india n there's a long list - for him 2 carry fm home:tongue
i dont say that am very organised r systematic......but i feel this helps me alot...as i always forget things , a bit careless eh8)

Arunarc · Oct 16, 2007

Wow this is a beautiful thread. It was really good to read. I am a person who is over organised.My son alway mess up his room and I use to everytime shout at him for that and later on I stopped it becoz it was of no use telling him anything. Now I always kept it closed while the other part of the house was neat and tidy. I just finish everything during the day so that I could spend the evening with the family(which includes my hubby and son). The whole day the house will be neat and as soon as these handsome guys come home it is all mess they just leave the things where ever they want in the beginning I use to try to organise them:-D but all was a waste so I don't do it anymore. Now I enjoy the day the way I want and enjoy the remaining day the way these guys want.
Yes spending time with the family is always on top of the list:-D which can never come down.
HAPPY NAVARATRI TO ALL THE IL READERS AND ALL THE MEMBERS OFCOURSE:thumbsup

Anandchitra · Oct 16, 2007

Dear Aruna
I enjoyed reading your post. And you have helped me start off my day with smiles. You summed it up nicely with these lines...The whole day the house will be neat and as soon as these handsome guys come home it is all mess they just leave the things where ever they want .... absolutely. Yes I too join them and enjoy my time with them instead of constant bickering NAGGING ..... glad i had the sense to see and change.