I really need ur help

lady019 · Apr 8, 2012

we havent talked about sex for last 4 yrs..he still doesnt care..hes more interested in the childrens welfare..the last time we had sex was a month before i became pregannt with my son..I wish if he was having an affair,he would tell me..why cant men tell their wifes about another woman..if he has some problem..also wish he would tell me..when it comes to men my biggest question is "why"..i have so many "why"s.maybe i marrried a difficult man,now i ahve lost intesrest in men..also no sex..I see the good in this..if we both lost interst..life would b so easier..atlaest we would live paecaefully..bye

unhappywife · Apr 8, 2012

Hi ,

I can understand what you are going through. Even i was in the same situation. So, i can understand bettter. 4 years is too long. I am 100 percent sure that he is not taking a revenge. He is saying that as an excuse. Some men get bored easily after having s with the same woman over a period of years. Either your husband must be having some erection problems or he might be simply bored with you, which is why he is not able to have s. All these years, he would have got used to mastrubating watching pornography. Pornography addicts may not be able to have s with their partner and they will give so many excuses. So I am sure, either its an erection problem or addiction to ****. Some men generally treat their wife as a mother of the kids rather than a partner. You can watch him and find out whether he is into pornography addiction. Tell him clearly that you won't be willing to live with him unless he mends his ways. He cannot be giving lame excuses. You should not waited for 4 years.. this is too long. Tell him you will be out of the relationship if he doesn't get rid of his problems.

lady019 · Apr 9, 2012

To unhappy wife-after we stopped having sex,we stopped loving each other..most of the days we fight a lot.Now we both r staying together just for the kids!!!!sometimes the kids see us fight verbally and my daughetr doenst like it all..I tell her not to worry,that we r not fighting becoz of her.but becaoz of her fathers attitude.My son's too young to understand!!!!I know he has a problem,infact ur the only viewer who feels the same like I do..But he doenst want to take any treatment for this...My husband has got a King Size Ego..he thinks vereythings my mistake and not his.How can u convince such a man,who thinks all the mistakes r mine.See hes an excellent father becoz My dad used to treat me badly,never loved us as a father would,so as a father,I think my husbnad is too Good..but as a husnad hes failed..I know my kids will suffer,If I leave him becoz hes a good father..I dont have nay realtionship with him,but the same way he's treating me as the motehr of his kids,I alaos treat him as a father of my kids and not as my partner..I dont think he has **** addaiction,but he might b seeing lot ofsexy pics, if hes bored with me who cares?I hope other men r not bored wth me..Well..talk to u later hmmmm..bye

unhappywife · Apr 9, 2012

hi

I know you cannot leave him. He also knows for sure you won't move out of him irrespective of his behavior. This is why he is not willing to respond to your cues. I didn't ask you to leave him altogether. I just said create a fear in him as though you will leave him. The more you run behind him, he is going to run away from you. At any cause, don't fight with him. This is going to make things worse. I know you are frustrated because of zero s life. But no point in fighting over it. I will write to you soon. I got to leave.

naliniraut · Apr 9, 2012

How old is your hubby? apparently men do go through the phase like women go through menopause. No harm in talking to your doctor(in absence of your husband). If that's the case be patience with him and you will feel good and proud about yourself. I agree with Salvibaboo, take those negative thoughts away, you can develop simple hobby such as reading or knitting better still start yoga and please don't rush into any sort of relationship YOU DON'T WANT TO COMPLICATE YOUR CHILDREN'S LIFE NOW.

Priya16 · Apr 9, 2012

I am alraedy in an online realtionship with a guy

I hope other men r not bored wth me
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Op,

I am not sure,I am capable of writing something for you.But giving a try.This online relationship guy may be only interested s** with you and leave you after sometime.Then again you would fall for someone and same thing happens.At this point you are only unhappy with your husband.But after sometime,you have to feel unhappy with yourself too.Because you never get peace or happiness with anyone.Believe me.No one can fill your husband gap and the security.
You were able to write like this online,and how your words with your husband.Why don't you stop all the fighting and expectations from your husband.Just behave normal without anything and see you see any change.I don't think your husband was showing some grudge.May be he got hurt somewhere deeply.Women see differently and Men see differently.You should able to understand his mind to sort out your issues.
If you choose other paths,believe me you loose your kids along with your husband.Nothing will satisfy you nor give happiness.

gilchrist · Apr 10, 2012

lady019 said: ↑

if hes bored with me who cares?I hope other men r not bored wth me..Well..talk to u later hmmmm..bye
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if u really wanna online guys thn life ll be miserable . Since am seeing lot of real life **** , thy ll shoot u though to hiddent cameras and later thy ll threaten u . If u really wnt a good life thn thy try to convince him to go MC (either by telling to ur mil or ur mom) or divorce him , marry some1 who likes u

lady019 · Apr 10, 2012

Hi,
At present I can manage somhow..Becoz I belive God is giving me strength,I only got in online realtionship is becoz i felt Genuinely lonely..maybe If my relationship improves with my hubby,I might stop everything in an instant becoz i know this is just a temporary fascination for men.. i dont want to get involeved with men anymore in my life..My whole perspective of marraige changed after i got mararied..Im not against marraige,but I belive marraige works for only some people,others it doesnt..U have to adjsut so much in marraige inorder to b happy..my parents marraige is still a disaster,but they r pulling on somehow becoz they r old!!!!I would like to thank all my viewers who genuinely tried to help me,Im sincerely trying to follow ur suggestions..the rest I hAve decided to laeve to God!!!!!I belive almighty God can only cahnge ones life to the good or worst..so freinds there's nothing much u can do to help me..I am only trying to b more independent in life..which I never was earlier..rest dont know what will happen..i will keep u guys informed if I see any cahnge in my husband..thanks n take care guys