It’s the same situation ... now I am confident that he has lot of ego . I took a break from work for an year . We built a house. Now I started job hunting again for 2 weeks now . I have two offers . As per your suggestion ... I changed a lot . I don’t beg . And am not just acting but truely am a happier person. We sleep in separate rooms due to younger one(4 years) , certification studies or his office work .. little did I know that my hubby really wants to sleep in separate room . On new year eve .. we gang of friends were playing couple games and one question that was posed to my husband was ... what one thing you want to change in your wife . We both have to write answers ... if we match we get point . My instant answer was everything and he wrote .. have discipline and dedication towards anything in life and strive to achieve it . Everyone one was like ... she is the best of all of us ..... Then my husband said .... cooking is nothing .. who wants food . Self goals are important . Now... only I know he is talking about my weight . fast forward ... we are happily living like good roommates . He dint even know that I felt bad or little did he care . In the past .. even if I was in tears .. he never bothered to ask me why. I want to loose weight .. but for myself not because someone is forcing me . Good qualities are many ... even if you are living in the same house .. you don’t know that something is wrong between us ... in-laws calls, house hold chores , favorite foods , children responsibilities .. both of us take care equally . If not... he does more . Today .. Is Valentine’s Day . Though we are acting like happy people . None of us wished each other . I did not wish because .. he is the one who has complaints.. so am not sure .. if I am his Valentine. He did not wish me ... carried my little ones valentines class gifts and went to office . He called me after 10 minutes to tell me that he forgot his office desk keys and If I could come to parking lot to give keys . He took the keys and pulled his window down and said .. hey pls put the garbage can back from the street. He is a greatest dad and also for me best care taker in terms of material needs . he holds a big architect position ... super busy with office work but he actually loves the accomplishments. He is kind of a person who believes .. work is a worship . He is from top institutes in the world. He is a great sportsperson and fit in physique . Very patient and extremely kind towards subordinates, colleagues and friends . Yet not boring ... he is the center when friends gather ... very humorous , enjoys food and little drinks .. definitely good looking . my children will definitely be well taken care by him . I feel my existence doesn’t matter here for him . My children ... love me too. I have very good relation with in-laws . But I cannot bear the pain of non existing to someone . I am choking . My head spins ..As I want to take a decision . I thought of pursuing job in another city but my little one is little delayed due to my Sluggishness last year in the break. Now he picked up very well with the school and my constant engaging him several activities. I don’t want to affect his life . What do I do .. what do I do ... Now I am 1000% confident that if I am not the one pleasing, pleasing , begging ... he will never Reconcile . Please don’t say it’s affair . He is super busy with office , children and I have access to everything. 1000% it’s not affair because he is super honest in anything he does .