I don’t cry,am I a hard hearted peson?

My dear Malliga,
Thank you for reassuring me that people who don't cy are not hard hearted.

for some tear can be a sign of weakness, and they never show it outside, they fell it shows helplessness, and not reacting to the problem in a practical, and positive way

I love what you have written.My father dies all of a sudden,and I was eight years old at that time.The entire village where he was born and brought up cried.When his body was taken t the burial ground,I was taken with others,men.Nomally women folk don't go there.The entire village came out,they saw me and sympathised,"poor thing.God has been cruel to her."But I never showed anythingon my face.I resolved that in future nobody should sympathise with me.
love
mythili

 

My dear viji,
I feel very proud when I see the words below your name that you belong to the Hall of fame and that you have posted so many blogs.Dear twin,you have tremendous focus.You wanted to achieve something and you have done that with single minded devotion.I love that.

So,you also don't cry.so we both belong to the 'however I try,I don't cry' club.My blessings to your grand daughters.
love
mithila

 

My dear Geeta Bhaskr,
I too agree with you that may be crying releases the pain that is bottled up inside you and you feel better after crying for some time.But I just can't.As you have said,my energy is for facing the problems and tackling it,crying does not help you solve the problem.
love
mithila

 

My dear Radhika,
Iam happy to note that you also belong to the 'I don't cry' club.When my elder daughter got married and left for her MIL's house,I just did not cry.I was happy that she got marRied to one of the finest persons I have come across in my life and I was sure that her in laws were going to trAat her as their own daughter.
love
mithila

 

My dear knot2share,
I fel tas if I saw myself in you when I read your reply.
In the time of crisis (if I can use this word loosely), people like us can step forward to handle everything or atleast be a good pillar of support when needed. Getting carried away by emotions sometimes does not help. It is good to be tough

I can not but agree with you.
love
mithils

 

My dear usha,
You had written to me about your mother,who inspite of the many illnesses that bothered her ,was such a courageous lady.Her picture that yu painted in your fb to me ,holding a walking stick and visiting her patients in the ward, is etched in my mind.I have great admiration for the women folk in your family.They are great!When we talk about these pillars of strength,we should not talk about crying,not in the same breath.No that does not gel.
love
mithila

 

My dear janani,
When you call me 'myla' Iam taken back to my days before my marirage.My mother and my brothers used to call me by that name.Thank you for bringing to me the fragrance of my younger days every time you write to me.

Dear janani,,different people react to different situations in different ways.That does not mean that one way of reacting to a situation is good and the other is bad,
You are a soft,gentle person.It is nice to be like that.
love
mitila

 

Deepa,
my dear dear child,I was touched by your mail.I can understand your feelings.Daughtes are more attached to their father and how painful it must be for you to lose him like that.But that is life,Deepa.

You come across as a caring loving daughter to your mother and a wonderful wife to your DH.Just try and relax.Take care of yur mother and remember that your father would cherish you for that.
love
mithila