Husband's Ego Ruining Our Life And Family!!!! How Do We Change This.

As for first problem now there are store which deliver things directly at home as a monthly delivery you can prefer and for second since both FIL and DH are not listening try to advise your DO to avoid FIL's feeding and get him a new bottle and explain things so that he can use it for his own purpose and ask your maid to take care these issues too and ask her to keep an eye on it and as far ur FIL he is sick cant do anything though cancer is not communicable disease can find links regarding it, i attached one below but chances of infection is possible though so take care all the best
Is Cancer Contagious?

 

yeah can understand.. kids find it interesting to taste new things request ur maid to take care of child since she is the only hope here and as for as ur hubby ask him what is his problem and try to have conversation in a smooth manner may be he might hav prob in office too so he is showing it to you.. some ppl show anger or hater to ones who they think they belong only to them which is both good and bad try to make things clear to him if he didnt wanna understand den no other other way we girls always have to adjust no idea why

 

yeah adjust is just word but impact different
Thats bad and at this point you have to teach him that u r not dependent on him not in aggressive way but in smooth way... you are educated and independent too so focus on something else divert your mood and if u get hurt let him find it on his own don't lose ur pride and also ur anger too don't show it if he keeps complaining just do some other work so that your mind wont keep it rewind and though we cant forget certain things at least we can ignore like"he is like that only let me just be happy in life" and soon some point he might start to miss you and get angry to as u r not responding or not getting angry he may ask for reason too who knows just stay strong he may understand you one day

 

@NJ1785,
Caide above, has very rightly said what can be done by you under the circumstances. From experience, i can say that egoistic men especially because they have brought up in this way, very rarely change their basic mindset.
You can also only adjust to the extent you can manage. Beyond that, without expecting basic change in his thinking, you can look at the practical aspect of it and lay it out clearly to him, that the maximum that is possible for you is to look to meal arrangements and arrangements for your child care - for which the maid is available. Outside jobs of shopping for the household etc, he has to do. You're up against an uphill task - but unless you put your foot down where he himself should realise, you will continue to slog without any acknowledgement. Take care.

 

yeah its only become a tagline"unity in diversity" but when we see deep down there is no unity at all but in India gender discrimination is far better than some other countries i dont wanna mention here and be strong and welcome all the best fighting

 

Op....how much does your husband value your earning?
Does it impact your life style?
What would be his reaction if you told him"I am finding it hard to manage doing so much on my own.I have been thinking of taking a break from work"?
Do you think it will get him to get off his back and help you out?

If you think this is a bad idea...then delegate your work to home to paid help.
Get a maid who will help you out with work and take care of child once she comes back from school.Give her instructions to take care of feeding her.

For groceries...use home delivery .These days you can get almost everything home delivered. Your fil and maid can take the delivery.

As for fil....cancer is not contagious. If he finds happiness with your child...don't restrict. Being happy is helpful in recovery from illness.

Using the same spoon may seem unhygienic ...but kids put worse things in their mouth.Think about the positives.Your fil loves her and he is around to supervise the maid in taking care of her.

Keep a jug or flask full of water in fil's room.

Please make up with your parents.call them up and apologize.There is no shame in apologizing to parents .A girl with out parental support is taken for granted many times. Make the effort to get back with them.