Dear ladies, Please advice me : Issue: My Husband's nature is he is more comfortable in talking to women than men. He connects so well and I have noticed that ladies also are able to mingle with him very freely. BAsically what i have understood is that are very comfortable in mingling with him or talking/say Hi bye etc whn they meet on road etc His basic talkative nature and easy going and simpleton attitude makes him a comforatble person to talk with for ladies as well. Eg: He meets a couple, he will easily make friends with both of them very quickly . Looks wise also he is just average/below average ,and I am sure there are not talking to him beacuse of any Pyysical attractiveness.( All good family ladies only I am reffering to - friends, neighbours etc). Sometmes I even think his below avg look is an added advantage which makes him easy to mingle. He has also the habit of following good looking ladies or aquaintances /Colleauges /film stars etc on social media and I have seen him going through their profiles as well. Otherwise he is a good father , cares for our needs etc But his talkative attitude and friendliness to ladies is irritating me very much and many at times, and off late we are having frequent fights on this . At his home alos he has sisters only and he has grown up with them, which could be another reason I feel. Please advice me whether this is an issue or Not. I am not able to understand.
Dear OP I don't think you need to worry. But of course if it irritates you, you can tell him that it makes you uncomfortable.
Everything is fine..but he following good looking women on social media deliberately seems like he is getting a high by talking to such women.. How is he with you? If your relationship with him is fine,don't make it an issue thereby planting ideas in his mind..Just let it go.But if with you he doesn't help well,you have all reasons to question him..
Actually everything else may just be part of his personality, but following specifically only good looking women (colleagues/acquaintances) seems not good.. you can ask him why he is doing so. Following celebrities is fine, but this is odd and surely any wife will be hurt. Maybe he has low self esteem due to below average looks as you mentioned, and so he does that. to get a high. Ask him and tell you don't like that.
When one side struggles to socialise naturally, there are others who does it so easily. N these days men / women befriends regardless of gender difference. N the same goes for following friends / celebrities on social media as well. I wouldn't worry as long as its not cutting into your time n its all healthy friendships. Bad points would be - Uncomfortable closeness. Weird / abnormal behaviour or obsession. Way too frequent personal chats. Spending more time or focusing on one person. If it's all just done casually, you can voice out your exact issues in a casual manner. Does he have very less men or average looking women friends ? Does he not befriend any men or average looking women personally or socially ?
Some people are friendly by nature or may be he is an attention seeker .Unless the conversation is awkward or crossing limits I guess it should be okay IMO .Also , looks like he is not hiding anything before you , I mean whatever conversation is happening is happening right in front of you .I have seen many people doing social networking stalking/following casually .Even in women there are lot of people who are more interested in what's happening with others lives .While I understand following film stars is most common thing , regarding following good looking women you mean he is adding only good looking females from colleagues and acquaintances ?Also you are clear in saying he makes friends easily irrespective of gender and all the women he has been talking to is a casual/formal talk so i would not sense any harm .
Yes as far as i have observed it is casual formal talk only. Dh is a people pleaser. He want to be in everyones good books and he tries to act too goody goody....