H's birthday is coming up. Every birthday, I bake a cake for him. Something I love to do, last birthday he didn't want a cake, instead I did a dessert ' île flottante'. His birthday cakes are elaborate, like chocolate expresso dacquoise or tiramisu or something that is exquisite. And I also cook up special dinner or lunch to go with it and we usually celebrate as family, once we had a party which I cooked all the dishes. I do all this because, I want him to feel special. He is special to me but I want to appreciate him and show it. That is the whole point of this. I dont give any gifts though. We usually discuss and will decide to buy something he likes to have. So it wont be wrapped up or a surprise. I do the same thing for kid's birthday, which she appreciates a lot. So it makes me mad sometimes that he doesn't care for any of the things I do for his birthday I feel he doesn't appreciate me doing the cake and cooking for him. The other day we were discussing mother's day brunch, and I wanted to make waffles, and he said it is not that good. He said he eats it only because it is healthy and homemade. I make this every other week, and everyone eats it. DD said she loves it and I love it too. H eats it for snack if there is any left over. I love to cook and feed people. It hurts me when i hear they are eating it just to please me. I would rather not cook than force feed anybody. Or I can eat it myself. Also, when my birthday or mother's day or anniversary comes up, he doesn't do anything. He wishes me, then he goes on with his life. No flowers, cakes, or gifts. I don't care for any of it, but I don't feel special in anyway on my birthday. So I want to do the same for him this time. Just wish him birthday and that's it. But on an average day, we get along great and have a lot of fun. These special days are the stressful days. While it will be obvious me not doing anything special for his birthday this time (first time in the last 11 years), I would like to dodge any questions. Could you suggest some? Thank you!