Hi Ladies, i am facing issue with my husband, because of difference between our way of thinking, feelings and more ever ethical values differences. I brought up under fully educated family circumstances which is filled up my mind with some ethical values about way of life and values need to be fallowed in case of relationship. i believe belief and love are more important between husband and wife than any other factor. responsibility towards each other should be equal so on...as a wife i believed my husband as guard of my life and he is going to secure me during my life time specially in critical situations. (am i wrong?) but my husband brought up in non educated family and ge knows how to earn more but not how to behave with wife. some of issues i am facing... 1. he had insulted me 4-5 times in 8 yrs of life in front of others for personal reasons which supposed to in between us(most of time in front of his mother and father. they are with us only. so no privacy to fight ) 2.He loves their parents too much(i dont have problem), but feels insecure in their service. as they are diabetic patients they need on time fresh breakfast, lunch and dinner. if due to any reason like my illness or my busy schedule, if i unable to prepare food for them on time he became like a mad and bullying me with out listening my reason. 3. he hesitate to listen any of my problems which is raising due to his parents activities and became very frustrated. in such cases he shouted like "get out of my house" or "you dont have place hear" kind of dialogues. we both are well educated and working as software engineers(i chosen freelancing for my 2 kids. having 2 month old baby and staying at moms house as of now). unless he is angry, at remaining we both are silent friendly( he is very less talker.) and acting as formal colleagues. he will talk actively only at sex time. and remaining time he likes to spent with my 5 yr older son. since his most of time spent with son and laptap, i didnt get 5 min of his time every day atleat not even 10 minutes personal time to discuss my feelings or emotions or any other house hold works. we are discussing house hold and kids related things on whatsapp only from long time onwards. he doesnt tried to spend with me alone if time permits, he liked to read book or watch TV. finally he dont have nice romantic feelings, actions towards me but he took care of my medical needs and needs of home cum kids. but i got hurted allot, because 2 months ago i discharged from hospital with newborn and cesarian stitches. at same time her mother started acting at home as mentally depressed patient. at that time he behaved like stranger with me and forgets my situation. one eavining cook didnt came on 3rd day of my discharge. that day he came from office and asking me to what cooked for their parents(mother inlaw is fine and she is simply acting as tired) with out thinking of i am mother of newborn with stitches. that whole 2 weeks he cares about his mother only, but not even asked about my health and stitches. i felt like abonded in that house and even shouted on me like" u dont have no place at home if you want to point out my parents", because i questioned their non supportive nature when i am with newborn and need medical attention. i served them from 5 yrs with my cooking. finally i left that house silently with tears along with 2 kids. ladies i am asking, as per indian law we dont have right on husbands property before his death. ofcourse house EMI paid by him only(he is able to do pre payment because i consumed my salary for house hold things for a while which is not visible in sheets/transactions that much easily). but as per indian tradition, girl dont have choice to stay away or to construct/buy her own house because need to live with husband due to tradition and for kids sake even though she is earning. i am also earning, and i am also have finance to rent a house for me. my parents are able to support me to buy a new apartment as well on my own. but hear i cant take these steps because we have mid bonding kids. even though we are not syncing to each other we both are acting as good parents infront of kids. now i have to again step into his house( i didnt feel its mine) actually which i am hating really now. but i have to because for my UKG kid who supposed to start his schooling in next JUNE. ladies how to overcome this situation and i am feeling very in secure in that home because i felt as stranger there who dont have any respect from other members of that house. just seeing me as care takers of kids, cooking cum cleaning manger. i mean no heartfull respect and love on me in my husbands heart, he is behaving formally as a colleague in case of all other activities, only behaving as lover in case of sex with romantic talks. my mom saying i am really innocent girl in case of him and over estimated his actions as love towards me which is not actually. now it seems to be right, because real love will not neglect in critical conditions.