husband or job?

If she has the freedom and support from her husband that she can work, why cant she look for a job in Chennai itself to get that thrill of earning for herself. When she knows that her husband is supportive, loving and caring but has this down time where he totally is clueless on how to handle this depressive stress disorder, its good if she is around him and takes care of him and the baby.

To work, to earn or to have that thrilling feeling (I dont know what this word thrill is though :bonk ) is not a bad idea...but she can do all these living in the same city with her husband and kid, why move to a diff city and and face stressful times ahead!! (setting up a home/ living in a diff city with a kid is not an easy task its really stressful for both the husband and wife)

By the way did she / her husband meet any therapists about his stress disorder??? if not, its hightime they do it for the sake of her husbands health

 

I agree with Sri vidya 200%.

I somehow able to relate my personal experience with this story.

We are also financially well settled, and my DH earns adequate salary from a respectable profession. But due to this so called "thrilling" fantacy, I wanted to come to Darfur - Sudan (one of the most dangerous city in the world) all the way from India. I really enjoy my job, and this thrilling experience. But it would have been better if you are still a spinster.

The enjoyment or thrilling experience is not worth leaving your loved one behind. You will realise this immediately, and feel bad about your stupid decision. But at that time, your hands are tied with responsibilities, and your can not move on. This is what happened to me.

This makes you stress, and unwanted gut feelings/doubts, personality dissorders, and so many other psychological issues, which will ultimately damage your family life.

I am in the process of leaving this profession in order to be with my hubby. It has taken almost one year to come up with this decision after facing so many family issues in my newly wedded life.

no career, no experience is worth by sacrifising/compromising your marriage

 

IF I were you I will look for a job in Chennai and take care of DH .

Your DH needs you more than your job in new Delhi .

Chennai is also a good city were you can find a good job with decent salary .

 

If I were you i would also try to search for a job close to where husband is. If you really want that job badly, then perhaps your husband can find a job too in Delhi?
Staying away from each other is something to be done only if absolutely necessary...according to me.

 

+1 to what scorpiogal said.

I would look for a job in Chennai, even if the salary is much less than a faraway job with more perks, just to stay close to mu husband.

-Lakshmi

 

It's like asking a blind person to choose between an eye and a hawaii trip. I guess we all know (s)he would choose the eye.

If your husband was hale and healthy and as you put it, does not need you to recover, then yeah you can think about it. But you pretty much know that he needs you and as a committed partner that is more important I would think than your financial independence. Not just him, what about the kid, will it be with you or the father? Either way aren't you depriving the kid of its other parent's presence in its growing stage?

Yeah, I say it's selfish to think about moving to such a far off place. You need to think straight and put your priorities in order. you can always get a job, but will you be able to forgive yourself God forbid something happens and you are not right there?