I am married since 12 years and have a 7 year old child. I very much wish to have another child. The reason is to provide a sibling for my child. i also feel my life is incomplete if i dont have a second child. After all my mom had 7 kids, then why can't i have 2. Also, my daughter keeps asking as to why she does not have a brother or sister while everyone else in her class does. I feel very sad when i hear her talk like that. i feel it is a basic right for a child to have a sibling and why i am snatching it away from her. Every time i hear about someone known to me has a second child, i silently cry thinking whether it will ever happen to me. and now, the problem- my husband is not interested in having the second child. (he is an only child) For the same reason, we had delayed having our first child too, and finally she came as not planned. He does not give me any true reason, other than saying it is too much work and financially hard. ( We both are working and earn average income which i believe is good enough to lead an average life. ) I think the real reason is that he never matured himself. he does not want to take any more responsibilities in life and wants to 'enjoy life' to the fullest without constantly worrying about children all his life. he is quite narrow minded and does not know to think long term or about the rewards of raising children. [I should mention that he does love our child dearly and love and take care of her dearly.] Now, my husband is ready to have another child for my sake. (mostly because he does not want to loose me and the child for the reason below) We have had number of problems in our marriage, mostly relating to infedility and at one point we were on the verge of separation. we still stuck together for the sake of our child. My husband has promised he will never go that path again. While I know that there are no guarantees to life, i ended up staying in the marriage for the sake of my child. Now, for the sake of the same child, i want to have another one. i want to give my child a sibling. so that she will have someone when she grows up. she will not be a loner like my husband. Even though we have had problems multiple times in span of few years in the past, my husband has promised this time that such incidents will never happen again. I have forgiven my husband completely and we lead a normal life and he seems to love me too. but I know for sure that if such an incident happens again, i will not be able to tolerate it and walk out of this marriage on the same day. I feel I have the courage to raise my kids by myself if need be. I dont know what are the consequences at the time of a divorce if i have 2 children instead of one. I dont know if it is better when there are 2 children, as they can solace each other or will i be causing double the sorrow. Anyhow, i dont want to think along this path, because i want to be positive and trust my husbands words that it will never happen again. I dont want to be in the 'what if he strays again' mode because i realized it was having very negative effect on me. please share your thoughts on whether it is a good idea to have a second child for a person like me. i feel i am on the verge of breaking down these days. I feel i may not have my husband to look for emotional support when i grow old. I want my children to be there. At that time, i should not regret not having another child. I got unclucky in being in a bad marriage and suffering a lot during the first few years of my marriage, but should i suffer that bad luck and keep away from having the kind of family that i want...? my passion to raise multiple kids..? I am aware that I am aging by the day and if I really want to have another child, i should have it as soon as possible. But I dont know when is the right time. i have been waiting for some years now, if i keep waiting, i dont know if my sitation will become any better. Thank You everyone.