Worry about what might .. when you get to that point. You should focus on the current drinking problem, be supportive (which is critical) for him to stop drinking. (1)Your past and fear of future will not enable you to be a supportive partner. (2)Once you resolve this problem, you will have courage and know how to handle the next situation. (3) you don't want to delve into what happened ... and what might happen ... It will only widen the distance btw two of you. (4)you are on right track; tell him it is important that he does it for his love for his kids. AA is your best, better than going to counseling. It is anonymous group of people who talk about themselves. Your DH will get to hear from others. He might be able to relate to them; he may feel that he is not alone. He does not have to talk if he doesn't want to and no one is pointing finger at him. It is free. In counseling he might try to justify or even blame you. (5) If the problem is resolved, he could be a different man. He might listen to you more. He may not say what he says today. He will be a changed man. You cannot sit there and speculate. You are falling into his trap. Ignore and focus on what needs to be done right now. Forget about everyone for the time being. Wish you the very best for the coming year. Happy New Year!