OP, joining back work or not joining back work should be a joint decision made by both parties involved as any change in financial status will impact both the parties directly and equally. Was this not discussed when you were having a baby? I mean, i know in US you guys get 3 months vacation and thats about it. When you intended to extend that, was he not a part of decision making process? Did he agree then and now he is taunting you? I am trying to understand the whole picture before I crucify him. In my case, we need the second income. we will go into debt if we dont. In that case, i cannot expect expect him "to be man enough" and earn his way through the mortgage and bills and the baby and some how still save a penny here and there is not going to work. It is simply unfair a burden for one person to shoulder. No, you cannot take this much time-off for the baby if it is not something you can afford. Paying for the baby alone is not enough (in my opinion). Who is paying for the mortgage, car, insurance etc etc? Is this something you can do with one income? Regardless of this, taunting you in public is unacceptable.