Huge Fight With Dh...things Are Not Going Well

shri0218 · Jan 26, 2017

beautifully written!! Can relate so much

anika987 · Jan 26, 2017

Shreema86 said: ↑

@anika987 , when majority of a group are doing something and you are in a minority who is not doing that , it always causes an insecurity . This applies to marriage , motherhood , career , everything . In my age group , most people have children, and even though I know deep within that this is not my path , I still sometimes feel unsettled . When you do something or don't do something which most other people are doing , it's normal to feel left out. But see what makes you different is what makes you unique . Next time you are in a group where people start talking about jobs , take a keen interest or pretend to take. Keen interest in what they are discussing . Then when you get a chance bring up some topic related to some hobby you are pursuing etc... in this day and age , career is a rat race, stress filled , there are very few who can actually enjoy it fully. You have a lot of your life ahead and you will get a chance to pursue your career when the time comes.just chill and take steps to get there
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Well said shreema!

GoneGirl · Jan 27, 2017

Hi Anika,

I do agree that you should ignore the comments of others. But deep down if you have a strong desire to do something you should definitely act on it, as years down the lane you should not regret for not doing what you always wanted to.. i would say you should get a job and work, and then decide if it's worth it or not.. at least then you would feel i tried, but it wasn't worth the time/effort..

As a personal example i would like to say that as a working woman, i felt i always missed something and always had to pick second best choices ( which i thought was a big deal) in my educational/professional side when i was in India. But coming to US i did get much more than i dreamt of, and it made me so happy and get over that feeling of Dissatisfaction that i had before.. Now am content enough to reduce my job hours to a part time one to spend time with family. For me, i wanted to prove that i was capable, for my own self satisfaction, not for others.