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Hubby ,weight Loss,mean Comments..

Discussion in 'Health & Wellness' started by anika987, Nov 16, 2020.

  1. anika987

    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    My husband had quite a big belly for his overall height and weight.I have tried for many years to get him into some form of fitness and good diet but he hated that.I left it at that coz fitness is something which people should personally be interested in.

    So I tried my best to give him a good diet but honestly nothing worked coz of his work stress , sedentary lifestyle. Last year he gained too much of weight which gave him backache and some knee problems.

    All of a sudden...did not know what happened but he just joined personal training and with strict diet,had lost 30 pounds and most of his belly fat..

    Now..sometimes I do not understand people.My relatives who used to taunt him for his belly and make fun, acted like they did not even notice his weight loss.Honestly..I expected a little bit of appreciation.It was natural.He certainly did not care but I felt teeny weeny disappointed but no big deal.

    Last two weeks since he had some muscle spasm, could not gym and his food habits went haywire coz of bodypain.It is totally fine coz now his health is important.Hence,he gained some pounds.

    I had been to a get together and we were watching movies.My cousin said "Look at those heros in movies.How fit they are! ask your husband to do something about his weight.He is gymming without any target".This comment he said laughingly and thought it was funny.

    I got irritated and said "Look..he worked very hard for this and lost so much weight"

    For that..the cousin was like "Doesn't look like it!"..

    The weight loss of my hubby is so obvious.yes he gained some weight but not all of it.Sometimes..I do not know why people are so mean.I know how much of hardwork,dedication and strict diet my husband went through for belly fat coz there is no concept of spot reduction.

    I just felt irritated and hence a small vent..
     
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    Hopikrishnan Platinum IL'ite

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    You are a kind wife. :number_one: Boys in their 40's and 50's would find it hard to lose and maintain the loss. Much older people would find it even harder, or see no point in it. Talking of points, attempts at such things would be construed as trying to impress some new "interest". It is often hazardous to binge in fitness regimens.

    Good cooking at home, a vegetarian home, subscriptions to movie streams, are all working against the efforts.

    Life is tough enough, it is best not to expect 3rd party compliments or mind derisions.
     
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    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    Don’t care about what others think...this is between you and your husband..
    So what if someone commented that he hasn’t slimmed down...you checked his weight and you know better..
    Many times, negative criticism acts as a good push to go beyond the comfort zone and achieve something...
    You and your child are the ones to benefit from having a fit and healthy husband/father...he is now a middle aged family person living and working for family, he is not a film star or celebrity to maintain 6-pack...being healthy and maintaining normal BMI is enough,
    So what do you care about others.....
     
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    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    I don’t care about their appreciation but what bothers is demeaning the hard work one puts.Anywaus..I was also stressed coz he is in pain and healing better now.

    I never bothered about him getting super fit etc but just in a normal weight so that he does not have body issues which he did.

    Someone working hard and others insulting is really in poor taste.

    that’s why this post.
     
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    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    He had some health issues and it was healed coz of strict workout and diet.hr has no time for any new interest nor the mental energy lol.

    on a lighter note,am 40 and am
    Super passionate about fitness and hit the gym 5 times a week.

    I am not doing it to attract the opposite gender and honestly it sucks when people term fitness for an older person as that way or vanity.

    I always support and encourage people but when it comes to
    Me,I have had many people do such snide remarks.Fitness does not know any age.

    Plus it was my cousin who commented about film star but I was just bothered about health.
     
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    If that cousin is fan of some rando film star let him follow him and make six pack or whatever. Don't give too hoots about such insensitive comments. Especially Indians are very good at body shaming. If you know the hard work your husband did for fitness be happy about that. Sometimes setbacks will happen. Maybe do more low impact workouts and do more stretching. That's your personal stuff.
    Go play on and scream about your frustration against ur cousin at home alone , just have a huge outburst privately at home :) easier to get over insensitive comments. Don't keep such things in mind although you only know the struggle to achieve fitness goals.
     
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    thanks dear for understanding.
     
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    Anika forget about appreciation some people body shame no matter how fit and beautiful/handsome one is, especially among our Indians.They have some image built into their minds that so and so age group should be of this size etc etc.It gives them some kind of pleasure as they are Jealous and can’t be like it.We need to throw a deaf ear at such people and take pride of such achievements. Your husband is really lucky to have an understanding partner like you,stay fit and happy.
     
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    thank you dear
     
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    Looks like your cousin has some character flaw, does he behave the same way whenever you meet ?
     
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