Hi all, I knew some people will hate me once after reading my post. May scold.. But I don't care. After 9yr of living with in-laws summary of my journey is 1. I have extra cooking work and compulsory schedule based life due to their illness. 2. No freedom to wear shorts and the shirts or any other fashion things due to generation gap 3. No privacy time with husband except sex time 4. Putting their head in every aspect of my dream home 5. Extra house management to reach their traditional beliefs 6. Not even getting help in caring children because all time they are old aged, so need to hire extra care takers and maids, so extra finance 7. My husband turns as kid instead of men and will stop helping me at kitchen/kids caring if they are in. He thought they are helping me which not true in reality. After fighting for 5yr, my husband realised how our outskirts home is ruining lifestyle because of traffic and distance. He finally agreed to shift from own apartment to rental one in middle of city which is near to school and office. My husband is primary culprit who plays dual drama with me and with his parents. Finally I am able to move to new home with basic cookware and told them that I will pre arrange things at new place to avoid burden of large furniture and arrangements shifting process. But truth is I need my personal space where I can remember my golden days at least in future. So I can wear my shorts and shirts, I can simplify foods and can order my favorites. Can enjoy my night walk which is not possible due to cooking and kitchen cleaning works if in-laws are present. Finally I need my authority to handle my home, live my life as per my wish, and plain strong love with partner instead of burning myself with over work and less privacy. Now they are in hurry of packing luggage at old house and wanted to move hear. Because they want my service and everything well managed house right along with playtime with kids. Because of rent added as extra, my husband opposing to hire bunch of maids like there. He is expecting me to take that burden. Ladies what is solution. How to tell them, I need my space and freedom to live my life as per my wish. How to make them understand it's not about hating them, it about liking myself.