How To Make First Time Special.

Star, I should confess I find your threads refreshing, as if they were from a different (fantasy) world that I do not know. Holding off on the first time for three YEARS, planning for it months in advance even after that three years wait, pressure for a baby also coming after three years, all these are unheard of. In my world, it just happens, any place, any time, any surface and if a nudge is needed anything could do, simple rain, jasmines, white wine would be better and some chocolate would make it even better but all of them could be there (in our minds) even if they are not there (actually) so I am having a hard time coming up with some ideas.
Baby questions would have started a few months or within the first year at most and we would be planning a vacation in some infant friendly place with our at least one year old, with FIL, MIL,SIL, BIL and anyone else who wants to tag along so question of second honeymoon will not arise

I feel you are more lucky than your friend who's DH earns 9 lacs pm as your DH is ready to take you on honeymoon after 3 years of marriage. You can go to some place you always wanted to but haven't yet, stay in a nice resort or hotel, forget about everything else and once you get started you will not get bored so you can plan for four weeks as well if that's an option. I will be looking for your post-honeymoon thread

 

None of the above reasons appear convincing.

You should first seriously ponder over your past 3 years.

Something is wrong with you or him or both. Mentally or physically or both ways. Both of you together should seek professional help from an expert.

Just planning for a special occasion will not solve the issue, ( remaining and unresolved for the past three years) which entails intervention from a professional medical expert.

Seek advice from one.

 

U have a good honeymoon and even the thought of u guys going after three years makes me smile ,happy for u ..
Yes y don’t u make it romantic plan things that are just for couples ..ask the hotel manager to decor the room for the honeymoon style they will do it for u..u have a good set of lingeries..
Yes some might feel depressed but since u are going to be out in Swiss make the best out of it.2 weeks is a lot but it’s up to you..
I think a getaway is good idea for u both to share the thoughts and having a bonding emotional first which u said since u guys had issues ..I don’t mean u have to bring up the topic ..
Have fun fun fun !!!!

 

Well some ladies do attach a lot of sentiment to the "first time".. And some just go with the flow.
Do what makes you happy.
Go to a vacation spot of your choice, book a hotel room with a good ambience, pack some, good lingerie, switch off all gadgets, and have some romantic nights with your hubby.
You would then have some happy and romantic memories of the first time .
Being in a good state of mind is also important during TTC ..u need to address the issues which made both of u not to consummate for 3 full years of marriage, parallely because you still have many many more years of married life and a holiday abroad can only help to some extent.

 

3yrs n not consummated? Sounds too good to believe! I mean its too long for couples to not consummate. But ya, one week or 10days long vacation...some good lingerie, perfume, room decorated and thats it.