I think, this is how most people in an arranged marriage years later would feel, including me. Do I love my partner/, how do I feel the love for my partner? no one will have answer to your question. Everyone before their marriage would have got dreams about their partner to be. Only when our dreams and expectation were met to an extent after marriage with the partner, falling in love happens. Otherwise, most of us carry on the relationship like a commitment towards family, society and kids. So someone should be lucky enough to find such a soul mate. It will not happen to everyone. Even in love marriage, I have heard both genders whining about their after marriage life. This site is one such source, where you read people who were in love for years before marriage regret getting married to their loved ones. The suggestions that you get from people are very subjective according to me. The outcome of the suggestions from any person depends on the effort from another partner as well. Nothing much to add.