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Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Jas82688, Aug 6, 2021.

  1. Jas82688

    Jas82688 Silver IL'ite

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    Hello all , am back again with neighborhood problems ..it’s a long post bear with me ..
    3 years back we bought a beautiful home in this desi neighborhood thinking people are decent .. they turned out to be from the hell.

    from the pandemic not a single person wore mask except of us in the neighborhood.. their kids used to come to play with my kids and sneezing on their face directly I have sent them back to home told wear a mask and come .. the parents got offended did not ask me what happened but stopped talking to is Permanently .. I did not care but I was strict on that part at the time ..

    Now all parents are vaccinated few kids too who are eligible not all .. one of the neighbor started having hatred behaviors towards us since we are not entertaining his kid .. that kid shouts in the ears of my kids and they many times cried when ever he is around .. I let it go just to fit in the social group but husband was concerned so sent the kid back ..

    mall these neighbors they leave the kids at my driveway and go few houses forward and put a meeting there .. so basically it’s me my hubby some times monitor the kids .. so we had to discipline them some times when they shout scream ..

    So this so calle kid went and told his father that my kid saying to follow her rules since it’s her home .. have asked my kid she denied told she did not say that but told them to fallow rules .. so the father picked up a fight with us and told he will not send his kid any more .. we are like ok your wish .. so after the fight between both males the wife of that das stopped talking to me which I have expected ..

    so basically they picked up a fight when this man shouting screaming calling his son since this boy always comes to our driveway to play where as his das Doesn't want him ..

    Another issue so many kids teenagers come and play next to my home there will be almost 10 bicycles on walk path blocking us and 5 cars every day in front my home blocking our visibility ..so we have requested them 100 times to move them for our kids safety as they will be biking on the walk path .. so they will move of we ask next same thing they block every thing ..

    So we repeatedly told some times moved them ourselves some times took another route .. but one day hubby got pissed of and warned them and moved it ..

    This another man who picked us fight on the past his daughter bicycle also there my hubby pushed is to away from side path ..

    While the way we returned we saw all the bikes blocked which we moved .. hubby asked why did you block on purpose he picked up a fight and at some point I involved supporting my husband he started shouting on me too ..

    so things got worsened due to this nasty neighbor .. let me say one thing his wife is very aggressive lady who pickups fight over petty things she fought with my next door neighbor then few other ladies but those are not in the same community they left since they rented homes .. she gossips about all ladies in the neighborhood..

    But no matter what how nice we are how aggressive they are rest of neighbors are in their support just because my husband is reserved just minds his business where as that other family is super social so even though what ever we have asked per legal people are blindly supporting them..

    That night one another lady few houses next to me sent me a message that your husband has issues with everything from parking bikes to cars if you ask us to move next time we will go and play at another place and your kids can’t play with us .. she threatened me this can be the consequence for asking bikes to move from side path ..

    I put my foot down and told her to go any where to play am not holding and don’t try to threaten me again like that ..

    She lost her respect .. I used like her and respect her but just because her son is same age as the other nasty family son she came as support from their side ..

    All ganged up on us so far 6 families who will stay around my home ..

    They did not block side path today so am happy I was helping kids to bike around ..

    I saw the ladies walking on road opposite me saw me then started giving me wired looks .. I did not care ..

    but I could not take this much negativity ..

    all these neighbors from the hell ganged up and even though am walking immune self I can’t escape from their looks .. It’s taking all my energy down .. next to my home 12 kids will be playing where my two kids will play infront of my home looking at them ..

    I can’t take my kids there after the fight ..
    Am getting stress and some times crying a lot inside .. what should I do ..?
    I know I need to ignore but how all these monsters are surrounded by me ..

    I feel like moving to other place it’s not that easy .. how to face these hell neighbors and keep me strong ..

    By the way am planning to exit two WhatsApp group where I was part one is kids group one is ladies group I no longer want to attend any birthday parties or get together where most of them are against to my family ..
     
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    So wonderful to read the story. When people want Chandni_Chowk in Chicago, and they get to enjoy it, it is so beautiful. I hope the OP's teething problems would be over soon, and they settle down in total satisfaction.
    I heard that it is a "sellers' market" for real estate in USA. Take the profit, and move to a nice neighborhood where people speak Korean or Chinese. Mango-Kim-Chee, and Wok-hei in subji would be items you could learn.
     
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    Jas82688 Silver IL'ite

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    Sir thank you .. I like your replies even though I don’t understood 100% which are filled with sarcasm and fun .. It made laughter when you said teething problems over soon .. no am not going to grind my teeth ..

    Yes you are true living with desi neighbors is hell .. they are just plain jealous or over competitive poking all the time ..
     
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    I did not say that at all.

    There are a lot of desis in India who live with desis. And they have quite the similar problems you describe. Children play cricket and send balls through the windows -- thankfully there are no glass windows in most of des. Neighbors squabble and get over it. Not talk to one another for life. No invitations for birthdays, weddings as well. And there would also be groups who get together and talk about people not in the group. Just like your neighborhood, where groups of ladies don't like you. You are the problem, and that is why they are grouping together to talk about you, and may be protect themselves from you.

    By excommunicating you, they are actually making more free time for you; it is now your task to make use of that free time and do something to be better than all of them -put together. Amazing how a neighborhood can collect to help you not fritter away your days hobnobbing with the riff raff. They are good people!
     
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