It is always a relief to have one's home back to oneself. Even after a much welcome guest has left. It is a relief to be back home even after a fabulous vacation. You were energized to set things in motion, new routines with a much more experienced you and a now-older baby. There seems to be a pattern of lapse in communication between you and husband. Couldn't communicate need to increase nanny's house. Now, not being upfront about your views on her planned visit. A parent visiting and staying beyond a week is a big decision. Even if she has taken care of your child, having her over is a big decision. You can and should express your feelings and preferences about the visit. It is too soon for another visit by any parent. A new baby, move to another state, new jobs(?), India trip with baby, MIL/FIL at home, all happened in 12-15 months? That is a lot of stress. You can say that you want her to come a little later. And you can gently and tactfully tell husband what he needs to do related to her visit, before and during the visit. Be tactful. Do not bring up the 15-30 points. Keep your points minimum. Deliver them without any blame or bringing up the past. Be specific, very specific. Tell him what he needs to do. Not what you hope his mother will do/behave. 1. Leave the past. Your grievances might be justified, but bringing them up now will make you look petty. All will view it like we are viewing it here. And we are known to be very pro-DIL and anti-MIL. 2. You work and say that you don't ever want to quit, cannot imagine quitting. So, you must be good at what you do. Employ some work strategies and techniques at home such as predicting the capabilities of other people. Finally, you are responsible for the household and child's care. Start to take some decisions after informing husband but not waiting for approval. You do realize how different things would have been with a fulltime nanny when MIL was around? You have money to spend on house in India, and are not kanjoos, but didn't spend it when it would have helped most. If husband protests, tell him, "you don't make/made milk, I do. So, I get to make some decisions about child's care, nanny hours etc." Leave it at that. Don't start listing his mother's faults. 3. Lay the blame where it belongs. On your husband and you guys not discussing things more openly. All that your MIL did and did not is pretty par for the course.