My in-laws are very nosy and want to know and assess everything that's happening in our lives, so they call up my husband every morning and every evening to get a daily digest and my husband is happy to satisfy all their queries. FIL even calls me and if i dont answer his call he immediately calls up hubby or my father to complain that i didnt answer the phone. But before that a background. My husband's family is a nouveau riche family who had a lower middle class upbringing. We are from an illustrious family in our community even though we also had a very middle class upbringing and values. Since it was an inter-caste marriage my inlaws side never bothered to check our credentials so they didnt even know about our high lineage. We are also from a very educated family which is not the case on my inlaws side. This seems to be a running inferiority complex thread in my in-laws side as they have been discovering our lineage etc over time. 1.) I hate it when they call my hubby even when we are sharing a private and romantic moment and i hate it even more when my husband answers the call and talks with them then while he is out on a date with me or is in the bedroom with me. What is wrong with my husband ? Are all men like that ? He refuses to understand and accept that i feel hurt when he shares my time with them or for that matter with anyone. Even when i am in his arms, he takes their call. 2.) He doesn't love me either. Both of us sleep in different rooms since the last 8 months. He goes to his room, switches on his laptop and watches movie all the time. He even plays **** games which i find quite disgusting. He taunts me for the one hour i spend on TV everyday after returning from work and claims i have no right to interfere in his life when i cant sacrifice watching TV. 3.) Most recently he is relocating abroad so that he can earn enough to buy a house for his parents who already have a house in a small town. They have expressed desire to move to a bigger town on grounds of safety to house and property. Is it right on their part to expect a house from their married son who has other responsibilities too and when we don't have a house ? Most recently, I came to know that they don't plan to stay in that house but rather plan to lock that house and stay with us. So my husband will spend all his savings as well as EMI on a house that will remain locked with useless stuff. What kind of a husband would do that ? Why doesn't he see that they are so selfish ? Why is an unreasonable demand considered as demands of an ailing parent ? My FIL always whines and talks in a crying complaining tone. 4.) I want to have a kid but with the wishes/demands that my Inlaws keep on making, I am scared that he would ignore my baby too. So it is better to have no kid at all. Do you think he could change after our child is born ? I feel that there would be even more politics on the child after it is born. My hubby insists that his mom should come and stay with us during my pregnancy knowing fully well I cant stand her. No, I don't say anything rude or disrespectful to her when she comes to our place or when i meet her. In fact, I dont speak to her beyond basic formality usually that pertains to daily meal. Owing to my hubby's demand I am scared to get pregnant , scared at the thought how hellish my life would become when she comes. What kind of husband is he ? Or am i being unreasonable ? 5.) Hubby keeps on verbally abusing me very frequently whenever he fights. He doesn't respect me at all and he doesn't respect my family either. He cannot take any criticism and the moment i pinpoint his flaws or his parents' nosy attitude, he flares up. HE HAS TURNED ME OUT OF HOUSE ON TWO OCCASIONS, and ATTEMPTED TO STRANGLE ME ON TWO DIFFERENT OCCASIONS. I complained about it to his father and guess what they said - Divorce my son if you can't adjust and are so incompatible. I love my husband and it completely shattered me. What kind of father wants his son's divorce ? And what kind of man connives at his son's attempt to strangle his wife ? I don't trust any of them now. He keeps using expletive for me all the time. I hate him for that. 6.) Most importantly, my FIL HAS KNOCKED OUR BEDROOM WHEN WE WERE SLEEPING and he has done it more than once. My hubby doesn't mind when his father knocks at our bedroom door in the morning ostensibly to wake us up as if we are not a couple but siblings, on the grounds that he has always woken. Once my FIL sat in our bedroom during cricket match until 1am leaving me to wander in the corridors even though i had office the next morning and even though i had come to see my hubby (we stayed in different cities then). My hubby doesn't want to grow up and my inlaws dont see anything wrong in that either. On the contrary they indulge him like he were a kid. My MIL saw my husband in underwears in the bedroom and she didnt leave the bedroom even when she saw me standing outside my bedroom. What kind of mother -son relationship is that ? When she saw me, she grinned at me wickedly. Is my hubby psychologically abnormal or is his mother abnormal mistaking her son for her husband ? 7.) Why do my inlaws behave like this ? Are they immature or selfish or greedy or evil ? The day I entered my inlaws house after marriage, my MIL taunted me and my parents on gifts and other things and crossed limits in badmouthing my parents which is totally unacceptable to me. This has become constant cause of our fights. She even taunted at our wedding ring gifted from our side which is so very hurtful, esp when she and FIL spent not a penny from their pocket on our marriage, leave alone gifting anyone from our side. I find them suffering from ' me too, me too' syndrome and are quite demanding. They want AC, they want car, they want house, they want expensive vacations, MIL wants jewellery and what not. Aren't they greedy and selfish? 8.) Most recently we had a fight and he has switched off his phone and blocked my mails and we are again in different cities. All this has caused a lot of mental trauma to me and in the last 8 months for the first time i have seen my hairs turning grey so rapidly and lost appetite for food at home. I skip dinners every now and then. I don't feel like talking to anyone now. I don't wish to talk to even my hubby who has left me in the lurch because i feel so hurt. When i told him that he couldn't even STAND UP FOR HIS WIFE, then he famously remarked - I can't STAND MY WIFE, NOT STAND UP FOR MY WIFE. PLEASE HELP BEFORE I DIE of grief . I am in hell till i receive responses.