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How To Get Respect As Housewife?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Needtobestrong, Jun 5, 2018.

  1. sindmani

    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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  2. Thyagarajan

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    :hello:The feeling of hurt persists for long and not conducive to maintain good health. If such hurting statements replied back with suitable retort it neutralises the negative feeling instantly. Either retort or humorize both will work better. Here is a scene in the office:
    “You are late today.”
    “Am I late today Sir?”
    “Yes you are daily coming late.”
    “Am I daily coming late Sir?”
    ******
    A scene at home .
    “Biscuits for you”
    “So much for me”
    “You are SAHM. Enjoy sitting & eating all the time”
    “I have better things to do. By the way don’t mistake me - do you sit all the time for eating only biscuit?”

    Thanks and Regards.
    God Bless.
     
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  3. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    :hello:Your presumption could be incorrect. Every Coin has two sides sister.
    Her situation now allows her less time for confabulation. She might be undergoing depression .
    Thanks
    Regards.
    God Bless.
     
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    Amen to humorize!

    I am not a housewife but intend to settle in a low-key presence more retreating than a housewife, that is, willfully quit 'big MNC and gets huge pay package' and lounge at home and loiter around in few years time to catch up with the overwhelming life before the prime of this Miss Jean Brodie is snuffed out. Hence, I think my voice may be relevant to your anguish.

    I would advise not to antagonize people as aam janta is inept when it comes to social inquiry. A charitable interpretation of even their alleged spite will help you to focus on other preferential delectations of life. Confuse, perplex and baffle the curiosity around you and rebound with gobbledygook. Don't do that po-faced but with animated hiss. It just confuses the other person though not necessarily alienating. Say, anyone asks me: But why? I humorize: Arey, no one is reading Simone Weil and de Staël these days. All that copious writing those enterprising women handed to the posterity, someone should read, nah? So, I decided to quit and read.

    They usually assume that I have lost my brain and are earnestly protective towards me.

    Humor them! Tease them! Get twee Socratic around them! Cultivate that ability to banter away their well-aimed inquiry. That attitude will stand you in good stead in every aspect of your social interaction. Don't estrange social underwriters and nosey well-wishers over their inability to comprehend diverse temperaments. Just make them feel listened to and carry on.
     
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  7. Thyagarajan

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    :hello: I take it that the above appreciation as result of your reading #32 of the thread. Thank you sister or madam sister!
    Regards.
    God Bless.
     
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    Here is a scene in the office:
    “You are late today.”
    “Am I late today Sir?”
    “Yes you are daily coming late.”
    “Am I daily coming late Sir?”
    These kind of scenes can happen in govt offices, in private it would be " You are fired". :smile:******
    A scene at home .
    “Biscuits for you”
    “So much for me”
    “You are SAHM. Enjoy sitting & eating all the time”
    “I have better things to do. By the way don’t mistake me - do you sit all the time for eating only biscuit?”

    When one is personally going through lots of ifs n buts about going to work(whether will get an offer after a long break?can handle the pressure? are you doing justice to your child at this young age? and many more) the nosey relatives poking comments are bothersome.
    Thanks for the comments n advice.
     
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    Yes, possible.
     
  10. Thyagarajan

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    :hello:I quite agree.
    Thanks and REGARDS.
    M
     

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