a general question from a home maker to other home makers who left job due to family and health reasons: How do u get respect from DH and in laws and acquaintances who take you for granted? I'm listing down common remarks that I usually get from people in different situations : 1. When I get up half n hour late because I'm unwell - "you are a housewife , why don't u get up by 5.30 and do the cooking. U are anyways free the whole day to relax..why u make others to do your work if u are unwell ". 2. When I fall sick : "how come u are falling sick?u are sitting at home through out the day I wonder how u manage to become ill. You are simply imagining it. " 3. When relatives are coming from outstation :"invite them for lunch and stay and entertain them, you are anyways a housewife and free the whole day." 4.if I arrange maid for cleaning or cooking or other chores for help:" why do u arrange maid it's not necessary , we used to do all work on our own managing two kids with no maid no cook ". 5. "Ladies should do all cooking and household work on their own..gents shouldn't enter the kitchen at all..if u are unable to do all household and cooking why u get married?" 6. If I ask some friend where they are working, no reply from them as they think I m not worth answering to. Many of them highly qualified, highly paid friends, do look down upon me, I can make out from body language and response to conversations. 7."Mrs A is so good and efficient, she manages her household, job and kids and she cooks herself she is so great..(fact: she has live in 24-hour domestic helps, who do cooking cleaning, and childcare and her husband is very supportive, works from home and takes care of certain domestic responsibilities..she doesn't have to lift a finger other than making babyfood for her toddler. And maybe one simple Indian dish?..Its really not right praising her overly and putting me down saying I'm not as good as her ).. I feel bad. Why do people take home makers for granted? Is a woman great only if she works in a big MNC and gets huge pay package? And how do u deal with such situations?