Mangaii, I hope you are able to visit India soon and get back your jewelry intact and without too much drama. The other money - you can only hope that with time the hurt of that betrayal will lessen. When the arrangement suggested by MIL didn't work in her lifetime, there was not much point in further unenforceable arrangements after MIL's death, like your SIL will rebuild and you guys will use it when you visit. To have a sibling in India who takes very good care of one's parent till the end is something that cannot be measured with money and property. That is a peace of mind that no amount of money can buy. I have been cheated out of more than I care to remember by my sibling with the connivance of parent(s) who presumably meant well and just wanted to take take take from the NRI child and give give give to the not-NRI child -- the fair thing in their view. That wrong is in its place. But, that is separate from the fact that I only sent money for parents' care. It was the sibling who took very good care of our parents till the end. Like you, I don't know where we draw boundaries for someone's good deeds. All I can say is, taking care of parents is very tough, very very tough. Time is the greatest healer. With time, all the money looted from you for a/c installation, bore well repair, bathroom remodel, etc etc will matter less. You will become philosophical about it.