Hello Ladies, Long post please read : I’m going through weird issues from last few months. We come from a middle class background but studied well. My brother settled in India and living good life. I married to a guy settled US my DH is also from poor background but he worked hard at studies and ended up settling here. My dad has 6.5 acres of paddy fields and he gave 2.5 to me as a dowry. It don’t have high value or anything but its ok. My husband didn’t really care about what I’m getting from my parents. When we both married we have nothing and no financial support from both sets of parents. We only have 6 lakhs and bank acct from my husband’s savings, he was only US for an before wedding as a research student so not much salary hence not much savings. He spent 70% his savings on his wedding and other expense for my VISA flight tickets etc. We both worked hard after our wedding and saved each penny by compromising on many things; I worked until couple days before my delivery for both pregnancies. My DH has to stay out of work for 2 yrs when he is switching to IT from science. So we had our hard ships and good days with in these 10 yrs of our married life. ** Now we both have good careers and making decent money. From 2014 we have started investing in India. We have invested in 4-5 properties and bought some agricultural fields. ** The real issue : My mom always compares me and my brother and tries to make him equal to us financially. I don’t expect anything from them even as ritual and send gifts often to brother/mom/sil/dad. She is not happy with it. Always tries to take money from me and give to my SIL and brother in the name of a ritual. I know it’s not the ritual but I still send to them. One thing bothers me is everyone conveniently forget the Hard work we did and still doing to make money. Leaving our kids from 6 month of age at day cares and not visiting family for years together and health issues and no one to care for our kids when we both get sick etc. And then days I spent far from DH and Kid and stayed alone in a different place to work. Everyone thinks I’m obligated to help my brother. I have already helped them when they are constructing their home and send money often whenever they are short on it. I don’t what else I can do as daughter to make then happy. Now she wants to sell the paddy fields as I got as dowry to my brother with the same price at 10 yrs old, my FIL and DH don’t want to do it. There are too many instances but I can’t write everything here. Overall because we are doing financially she expects me to help my brother even though he is doing good as per Indian standards and we have hefty mortgage to pay here in US. Please help how to sort this out without offending any one.