So both my kids love to play with other kids. Moment anyone in neighborhood they see out, they run outside to play. My little one follows older one and i can not stop him at all. Now, most kids play in our yard, we have toys and stuff in yard and they come play for sometime, and go. So its like hub on street. I do not mind that and love that. My mother also says its blessing if kids come to your place. They have thrown rocks here and there, everywhere in yard ( on grass) ( adds work while lawn mowing), my kitchen dishes/plates i find on yard - they play some stuff, infact once i found back in woods connecting to yard. They take water jugs out, decoration stuff out ( flowers), my daughter ..many times.. My heels, ..then kids come inside our home with all shoes mud. Then, they play with water hose for 20-30 mins in my yard, not in any one else. Someone ( along with my DD) happily scribbled on our car. They want water, 10 extra glasses for me to wash, then my daughter decides she wants to make lemonade for them, she gives then snack packs like yogurts , popsicles... that i bring for school and its all over and infact my son does not get it. These things did not bother me, till i started seeing others behavior. There are rules in every house, i understand. We are bit relaxed and my kids do not listen. I asked her, are you allowed to do this in other peoples home? - no. One day she and her friend decided to make lemonade stand all of sudden and are after us to arrange, while we are busy moving furniture etc. They did bit of themselves, and left everything all there. Now, few months ago, neighbor called my older DD for 5 mins Holi in yard. My DS also went. I think my son plucked their planted bulbs. So i recently found out, my son is not allowed by her parents near their home or yard. Their kid comes, eats snacks, makes mess in my kitchen, inspite of me saying no ( my daughter here). They take stuff outside leave it there.... . girl is asking me if she and DD can play in her house I asked to play in our yard otherwise my son DS will follow DD, unless they want to stay in their backyard. She said no, he is not allowed in our yard also. Her parents have told her. Then inspite of me saying no, both of them went to friends home. I had to distract DS, taking him out somewhere else, rather than doing house work. Now, our house is getting renovated and in mess, real mess. We have so much work, like we move stuff from one room to room, so much noise in house. DD and friend comes and again moves toys stuff to cleaned out area and again work for us. We do not say anything to her but now i am getting frustated. I will apologize to her parents of course. But how to deal with such cases, where is parents patience. Kids will do all wrong things unless we stop them or tell them not to do. They just say 'no' plucking etc. Ask older kids to stop him from plucking if he ever does. What about he is not allowed. I remember growing up, same case, my parents would hardly say anything to other kids and specially my father would love to see kids. Never bothered if some neighbors kids peed on our bed or keyboard... yes, i used to bring neighbors infants home while studying. But some of my aunts - can not do this that, this room is banned. When other kids comes, they instigate my DD - to do this that, that they are not allowed to do in her home, eat popsicles in winters, my H already short of patience gives in, buys ice cream to all of them. Spaying cereals all over. For ex - my expensive flowers from vase, taking it out, take outside on driveway playing with it, showering like bride ... But when it comes to mess in their home, dealing with more naughtier kid, it not allowed. I tell her so many times, but so many rules i tell her and she does not follow any.