How to deal with short tempered spouse?

SPreethi · May 18, 2007

hi friends,

Im married for the past two years. I have 7 months old daughter. Of late Im having problems with my husband. Though there r many reasons one of the main reason is my Short Temper.

Plz give some advice of How to Control Short Temper.

Thanks in advance.

Bye
Preethi

cheer · May 18, 2007

Re: need advice

Dear Preethi,

As far my experience although having no kids, reason for short temper is maybe ure expecting more from ur hubby after delivery & u didn't get that much help & that's why u getting frustrated. Try not too much expect from ure hubby & don't take too much tension. Give sometime to urself, watch TV, listening songs, reading books etc will calm u down. Talk to ur friends & family, spend time with ur daughter will help too.

But stop expecting too much from ur hubby.

Hope u'll get more help frm other I'lites.

Monsi · May 18, 2007

Hi Preethi,
Please talk to your husband about your anxities, worries, expectations. Sometimes the new fathers dont really know how to react for certain things. Tell him what is going on in your mind clearly. If matters heat up, stop the discussion for sometime but dont forget to bring it up again when both of you have calmed down. To know both sides of the story is always good. Which means that it is also very important to know what are his worries and what he thinks about the whole situation. There can be just a little communication gap between you two because the child has the attention most of the times. A child is a big change in both of your lives and you both have to cope up with it and bear the responsibilies equally. I am sure he must also be equally worried about the problems that you two are facing. Talking to each other is the best way to sort out things. And there is no harm in taking the first step if it is for the good.
I wish all the best to you and hope everything will settle down soon.

coolcool · May 18, 2007

hi, I had the same problem when my baby was 8 months. list down your problem on a clean paper, note which are the things u can say to your husband, then find a eve (friday eve is best since sat & sun holdiay), after tea have conversation and pour everything u feel.
my case, after our conversation, he realized and said sorry for not caring me. From that day, he helps in cleaning utensils or adjust breakfast/lunch menu. Giving me own time to take rest hewil take care of our baby (now toddler).
Nothing permanent... this will also pass away.. just speak out;;;;
Good luck!