Dear OP, You situation is really concerning. Loads of strength to you! Please answer @Deborah 's questions. Would help us understand the situation better. Adding to that, Were there any major issues or fights in the past? Did his behaviour worsen after that? Or is this how it was from Day 1? Does he interact with your side of the family? And, do your family here in India know the things you are going through! If they know the magnitude of it, how supportive will they be? Any Indians in the neighbourhood? Any friends or acquaintances made so far by you? Do you have zero access to finances? Do you atleast have something like emergency fund in the house which you can access if needed? Are you totally dependent on him for every little need of yours? Sorry, that is what your post implies but just wanted to confirm. Were you working before marriage in India. If yes, I can understand how difficult it would be to be totally dependent on such a control freak H. Actions speak louder than words! He is trying to mask his controlling behaviour as protectiveness towards you and the child. He is not talking to you or talks when he need, you dont have access to finances and you cant go out and socialize without him/his Mommy. Whatever name he calls it as, he is emotionally abusing you and I even doubt whether you realize the magnitude of it.