I'm a SAHM of 2+ year old.. on H4, no EAD, in US for 3 years now. Husband is someone who's always wanted/had his way in the marriage (despite us having a lot of fights over this) and metes out the silent treatment easily. Learning to handle it in itself has been a great challenge -and still is. Besides the challenges of uprooting myself and moving to a different place, being without job and becoming dependent in more ways than one, becoming a mom and navigating in-law relationship in this background. How to deal with: Husband's silent treatment? This is his habit, but currently he hasn't spoken to me in 45 days. This is probably the longest ever. MIL while acting disapproving of our non-communication, is actually facilitating it by happily being the go-betweener. And while she has openly scolded me for not going behind him, she never insists to her son to tell me directly (typical?!) He is well taken care of by her, there is very little role for me in HIS life now. I resent this very badly but don't know how to break out of it. He does utter a word here and there if there is no other way - if its something about the kid and the situation demands it (ie his mom is not around)... he spoke several times even if formally when we'd all gone out to the movies and kid was restless and I was trying to put her to sleep.. So basically, it is as per his convenience. Authoritarian behaviour His will/whim needs to be done. Else I get the above silent treatment. And my wishes/ideas/rationale are secondary to his. I do not accept this, and this has led to a lot of conflict. Even when I don't fly off the handle and behave calm and firm. And this gets worse when his parents are around, because they find fault with my assertiveness and support his behaviour. How can I stand up for myself without a job, without financial freedom? I am at a loss. To get EAD I need his cooperation. To get a job - to even hunt for a job. To put my child in daycare. To write qualifying exams to pursue my career in US. How am I to do all this when he so coolly shuts me out? I am really confused. A year back we had a major meltdown, but then overcame it, starting to talk about things and deal with it. Things started improving, he even initiated interest in me pursuing my career again. I was very happy, hopeful. Now after his parents came to visit us, everything is out after some minor argument and he is back to his old self. I have considered going to my (parental) home. He will not let me, unless we were all going to India. And considering my in-laws are still with us now, it may be a while till he wants to. I do not want to leave the kid with him and go. I am frustrated with being stuck like this for so long, not being allowed to do anything, for me or my home(married life) or my birth home or my own child. And having been in limbo so long, I'm scared my once - promising career is slipping out of my hands. And all this causes deep agony. I feel I've made too many sacrifices, and those too have gone unrecognised, and just been taken for granted...because I'm the woman in the marriage aka the one who must compromise... Have just poured it all out here.. please share your thoughts, counsel and suggestions..