Hi all, I have been married for nearly 20 years.My MIL is always passive aggressive. She hurts indirectly. example: if I wake up late on a weekend then she brings the topic of my cosis and somewhere in the conversation she conveys that she wakes up early and it is ideal for girl to wake up early.She does the same with cosis as well. In the beginning me and cosis used to maintain distance because of constant comparisons..later we started sharing and now we know the reality.MIL never appreciates or compliments me for anything when she is at my house but she always praises me in front my co sister and vice- versa when she is at my house. I sometimes had a fight with her saying that I don’t like her constant comparisons. She does not know that we share and says that I am too sensitive and she never has problem with my cosis which is not true as my cosis says she has same problems with her and don’t like her comparing with me. BY now we know she is playinggames And would like to ignore her but I can’t completely cut her off as she is still my husband mom . At the same time she does not stop. She does not mention about our quarrels to my cosis or my cosis to me and continues same strategy of appreciating one in front of each other. I am really fed up with her manipulations and not sure what happiness she gets doing that. Instead she can compliment things that she likes with me so I feel happy and things that she likes with my cosis near her so she feels happy. Why does she praise in the back and hurt on the front? Any idea? Any motive? husband says to ignore and move on but she calls 2 times a day and continues same strategy. Even though I know she is doing drama but still makes me feel guilty that I am bad fil.If I avoid her calls completely she says to my husband that she would like to say hi and then continues same crap. I am tired of this constant comparisons and indirect insults all the time and want to lead peaceful life. Any suggestions?