How To Deal With Insensitive Pils

I can understand your pain , but please try to be positive . Trust me I've also experienced . Still we do our duty and take care of everything related to DH parents . Because it is our duty to take care of our parents .We take care of all of expenses of inlaws including their rent because they even gave away their house to my husbands sibling . But I believe as they are my husband's parents so it's our duty to do everything for them whether they do anything for us or not .



If u neglect parents health that will haunt u forever .Money will come and go but we should not neglect parents and inlaws especially in their old age . Even though we get hurt , we realised that partiality will continue forever , so we should not focus on that but do our duty . Because we cannot live in peace if we neglect them in any way, whether they care for us or not .

 

I don't think I am so good person as u think , I too get very hurt when I feel partiality . But we have realised that we shouldn't neglect our duty .

I do everything but I never tolerate any discrimination towards gender . I'll advise u don't follow any wrong things blindly just because they are elders . Just do Ur duty to take care of them but speak up for Ur values, especially for sake of Ur child.

 

This proves that woman is her own worst enemy. When woman itself feels like that , there is no point in arguing against discrimination from men.

Society is slowly changing .. There are cases where gal has done funeral rites for her parents since she was the only child.

 

Her partial behavior towards her sons may pass of as individual decisions....but do not let her pass that on to your daughter.

Next time she talks about not giving importance to your daughter,cut her then and there and tell her you will not hear any such thing. Your daughter is your flesh and blood and most important to you.

Sometimes we stay quiet and let them believe that they can say whatever comes to their mind .

I also differ on the view about dil's duty towards the in laws.( Not about the op but in general) The primary responsibility towards them lies with their children.
If they are bad to the dil ,then the dil should stop doing whatever is considered her duty because otherwise,they will continue their behavior as a right.

Stop doing your duty and let them know that you will not be available if you are not treated properly .

This will give them enough time to change their ways while they are still capable of taking care of themselves.

This will give them a chance to rethink their behavior.

This will give them a chance to become better people....or they can learn to live without a dutyful dil.

Why should people change if there are no consequences?
Don't expect love if they don't do the same
Don't expect fairness if they are unfair.

If you want to serve and continue to be dutyful even when they are bad....you only have yourself to blame for the continued bad behavior.

 

Op ,has anyone ever questioned them about their unfair behavior?
I did once....calmly. They were red faced and denied but the partiality did decrease a bit.