I started keeping respectful boundaries with my in-laws coz am tired of toxic fights.Whenever I call,I speak generally about movies,food,what they do etc..I don’t call Often and call only once in 10 days for the past six months.I thought this way no unnecessary problems. Today..When I called she started lamenting and saying we stopped calling and in India she is going to die without anyone.I was aghast and told this is a tough situation for everyone and we are all home. I said She can visit small temples,or go for a walk or visit relatives places to make herself feel better. Now my mil hates advise.She feels it is her birthright to give advise to everyone but feels she is perfect in every way.After I advised she wanted to keep the phone down and said she is living in fear and we won’t understand. I told her even she can call anytime she wants and not just wait for us do the calling.That too she does not want to do. It is getting very tiring on how to deal with her. she wants me to be always nice, say yes to everything she says,praise her and take her to all vacations. In the past 15 years..not once has she even said that my cooking is good. it is all expectations from her and no giving.She has hurt me many times and so am Keeping a distance. she says someday we will understand how it is to disregard in-laws and karma is a boomerang etc.Everytime you hear it...I feel like a bad human and end up calling her only to be annoyed. everytime I end my speech with her I feel guilty and gloomy..It boggles the mind. She is waiting to Come To USA And knowing her the moment she sees me..she won’t even make eye contact until I go up to her smile and welcome her. How to deal in a situation where no good is happening even when you are away and always made to feel guilty?