How to deal with a troublesome Brother-in-law?

What is the brother's take on this ?

SInce your cousin is ' recently ' married, she rather be a silent spectator unless there is any danger to her from her BIL. She needs to understand that being a newbie to the family, her words wouldnt matter much when compared to the people who are living there already. She should stay away from him and moroever, him failing in his course and drinking to death is entirely his problem. Even if she is concerned it would merely look like she is unduly affected and is having an atitude. No one in her hubby's house would understand her if she wants to be a responsible SIL.. She now needs to concentrate on her married life and not bother much on anyone else.

 

Maybe your cousins hubby can have a talk with his brother about doing better in school and acting little bit more mature. If your cousin tries to talk to bil it might seem like she is trying to control her new family from the get-go. So best is for your cousin to express her concerns about bil to hubby, and let hubby handle it.

One thing to keep in mind when she talks to her hubby is, she should make him see she is not complaining about bil, but just CONCERNED about his well being. Apart from that, your cousin should try to set a good example within the home and maybe bil will get influenced by her good behavior. If all that still doesn't work, what to do? Eventually bil will get married and possibly leave the house. Ultimately, it is up to him to sort out his life.

 

Hi

Ur cousin can make her husband understand about the problem she faces. And she may even go out of the joint family.