How To Cope In A Marriage Where Husband Does Not Even Consider Me As A Human ?

Coping mechanism is keep minimum contact, don't react or show that you are affected at all. Think like you are single mom and keep doing your work whatever you can. Don't expect. I understand when you have small kid work is overwhelming but your mental peace is also more important. You try to stay happy with your kid and don't bother by negativity.

 

I’d also suggest this. Unfortunately I know sometimes it’s unbareable. But time passes when you ignore.

 

Dear OP
I am 47 and have realized after investing a whole life into my marriage that my husband's POV was usually as immature as my teenage son. This I did not realize before my kid grew up and the parallels between their behavior were out in my face. Generally, 2+ decades of social conditioning and dollops of immaturity do not make a man enter a matrimony with realistic expectations of his wife.
Please try to identify what you are dealing with here. Be kind to yourself. Have a individual life without hurting the common one.
Expecting him to treat you like an equal will lead to misery.
Treat yourself like you think you deserve to be treated and there lies your happiness.
Whoa! I needed to hear it myself too!

 

'SHE IS LIVING with this problem since years and now seeking how to cope? She resides in South India and not known whether she is financially independent and lives presently in joint family or separate establishment? In such a situation suggesting ways and means would be a redundant exercise."

Yes, it is okay to get confused during problems and when your own spouse is not dependable, but one has to learn & stand up for oneself in similar situations. The OP hasn't learnt to cope up yet after so many years....how can others guide ?