How to convey?

Dear friends, I am writing about this issue with my sister. I have had problems in the past with my parents spending all their time and energy on her and never a reply to my messages. TO some extent this problem has been solved as I have now come to terms with this reality and don't expect much from parents and sister.

Now we were planning a vacation and informed my parents a few days back. My parents must have informed my sister as her behavior suddenly changed. She has become less communicative. On my anniversary she posted several pics in the category of life events on a social networking site. She posted holi celebrations, b'days and even a cousins( with whom we barely if ever interact) engagement as her life event!!! I just found it so weird. She called us late in the night to wish and was sounding a bit strange. She is very competitive and likes to better me. She is in most ways better than me- me being a homemaker and she professionally qualified. BUt even then she continues to do strange things to annoy me. On my sons bday she called and asked wht our plans were and when I foolishly told her that I have no plans as such she dumped a cousin of my bro in law on my head to entertain...the whole day we were showing him around:-(

A long time back I had sent a msg to my dad that my mil is sick implying that she is a sick woman. I did not know how my sister conveyed this to my parents that my mil was unwell and my dad asked me in front of her while we were chatting...and there was such a big fight afterwards. My mil created such a scene. I thought it was a genuine misunderstanding for my own peace but now I feel she did all that purposely.


I don't know how to make my parents understand that my sister plays mind games with me. I take enough nonsense from inlaws and husband...don't have the energy to deal with her. I am trying to ignore all that she does but increasingly it is becoming difficult.

I think this is some form of adult sibling rivalry. My parents blindly trust her. I am so low...

 

Another thing is I have now stopped telling too much about my life to my parents. I am scared that sister will react in a weird fashion. My mother tells everything to her.

 

Thank you tulipzz, chillbreeze and rathiprasad for your replies! I started giving minimum info to them a long time back. The details of this vacation I was forced to tell them as we are going in my son's holidays and will not be going to India. We did all the bookings last year itself but informed our parents now!

But it really hurts to hide things. Concealing stuff about my life is not my nature. I have always shared everything with parents.

Another thing is she is basically a pet in the family. I mean people praise her good nature and what not. I fail to understand this insecurity. Why should someone already so liked and appreciated by everyone be so small hearted?

Another thing is she goes around giving medical advise to everybody. But last year I had asked her for some antibiotic/medicine for my throat infection and she just ignored me. I mean she did not see my throat or even suggest a good cough syrup! My parents called her and then she responded.

But even with my hubby's relatives she will spend a long time discussing their health problems! She is also planning to move to the country I live in...she says it is for the money but I am terrified of her living so close. My hubby and her hubby get along well.

I think I am going mad. Am I being paranoid??? I am so lonely now...can't share my joys and sorrows with anyone. I sometimes pick up the phone to call my parents and tell them something nice but then I stop. My hubby supports me but I don't think he understands the depth of my trouble.

Should I go to a counsellor?

 

She also competes in problems...her problems have to be bigger than mine so that she can get sympathy! And she will do it in such a subtle manner that no one but myself would notice it. Oh...I am going nuts afterall!