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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by mkarthika, Jul 19, 2010.

  1. ArchanaP

    ArchanaP Silver IL'ite

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    I knew you would come up with something like this... that's why I said "ONE OF THE BEST, not "THE ONLY BEST".

    Your advices are silently admired.:thumbsup
     
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    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    Oh noes! I've become predictable now! *pouting and sulking now*
    PS: LOL! I am just trying to see how it is to be whining :)
     
  3. DrKadambari

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    Spiderman : looks like this is becoming your theread. Poor OP
     
  4. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    one small banter and drK police is out :spin OK no more banter on this from me!
     
  5. gjaya

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    Oh don't quit Spidey, you look good pouting and sulking...

    :rotfl
     
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    ha ha ....:). This thread is so funny.
     
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    I think some ladies here seem to believe Spidey is a female :rotfl
     
  8. RadiantCat

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    OP. before you decide on how to choose between the guys, do you know your strengths and weakness? First analyze your strengths and weakness and find a person who will match them. Marriage is not a superfluous affair. You get married for a lifetime and when this doesn't happen hell breaks loose.

    What you need to check in the potential spouse

    1. Family background
    2. Educational Qualification (A professional degree is always better)
    3. Temperament, Attitude, Confidence Level, Maturity
    4. Job Prospects
    5. Looks

    I feel you are not yet ready for marriage. First you move out of your house live in a different city take a job. Live like that for 1 or 2 years, you will get a different kind of exposure that would help you identify the person.
     
  9. Prettina

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    hey gal,
    if guys look at gals in wrong sense..
    They complain if not also they complain...ooff...
    And Its your first meet not your first Night to throw romantic looks on you..


    These lines prove that you are not much convinced with the guy then please dont go ahead..

    Why should he change??Will you change for him??
    Why should anyone change after marriage??No one changes..
    Try to accept the way he is,he will accept the way you are..Thats what life is..
    And karthika,you have to come out of this dilemma and pave your own way first before jumping into marriage..
     
    Last edited: Jul 29, 2010
  10. RadiantCat

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    Exactly Pret. Karthika, first don't get into a marriage with the idea of changing the other person or with the idea that the spouse must listen to you. You must learn to blend both your qualities and live a meaningful life. It is very important for you to chalk out the following:

    1. What is that you want?
    2. What are your long term and short term goals?
    3. What are the compromises you can make?
    4. What are the *must* needed areas in your marriage?
    5. How are your problem solving capabilities?
    6. How responsible are you to take care of a family (husband and his folks)
    7. How will you deal emotional, financial, and relationship crisis?
    8. Can you run a day-to-day house like cooking cleaning maintaining the house keeping track of the bills and so forth?

    Girl answer the above questions honestly and decide about marriage. Please don't get married as if like will be a bed of roses and a prince charming will sweep you off your feet and you will live happily in some unknown castle.

    Finally, there's a lot of difference between 'sex' and 'making love'. Get the difference. Don't parade before potential spouses with the idea they look at your assets. That's not marriage.
     
    Last edited: Jul 29, 2010
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