Discussion in 'Married Life' started by AmulB, Apr 5, 2020.
I sure empathise.
THATS CRUEL. the parent has to identify the reason
Unless you stop his drinking problem i don't think he has any chance of changing.
not going to happen. try that. they will bring one of the amendments.
my cousins in india are telling police will beat people if they are out in this lockdown. here i saw someone in twitter posting, they want to enjoy and party and not care about the virus. again one of the rights.
actually this is a very good idea.
it avoids your reminders, which he will think as nagging. and it also enforces your assetiveness about prevention of you and kids. instead of any physcical action like cold water or arguments, lock inside with food till he is sober.
if he is violent after you come, you clearly know your priorities about this marriage.
People are dying without alcohol. Its essential in some countries to come out of the depression.
Its addiction and cant change in days and weeks. Need lot of support.
Suggestions if you want to consider :
1. Check with him. is he depressed about situation and drinking more.
2. Ask him to buy or stockup more . You are worried about going out and getting infected.
3. is he afraid about Job security and drinking more
4. Is he missing any thing in life ?. all cant be same and need to understand.
5. He is not worried about covid-19 and thinking it will not effect.
6. Whole world is helping in house chores. Couples are not made for each other now .Its MAID for each other. So engage him in house chores. Ask him to share , so that will engage. Small kids are also helping to parents.
Finally, Covid-19 is expecting every to change behavior with others .
As some one suggested, he is not listening when you talk in person. Use Whatsapp communication.
Yes he was intentionally helping me w kids so he could get drunk and not be bothered. So I said he doesn’t have to help me. All he needs to be normal and that is big help. I can manage everything except this nuisance daily which disturbs all of our routine and peace.
And yes I did ask many times for his reason for drinking. Either he could be hiding the reason from me or he’s super addicted and unable to help himself. I have been suggesting to join AA since couple of months after I got suggestions here. He simply cut it off as useless suggestions...
People don't mind getting the virus but can't live without alcohol. Yes, depression is the reason, but he thinks it is better to depend on alcohol other than confiding in his wife and family. Unfortunately, alcohol is very dangerous, almost like drugs. I hope he just realizes what a big mistake he is doing.
Wasn't he drinking alcohol even before the Corona started??
Yes he was. But stepping out at this situation is not acceptable. He was doing this for long time, his usual routine of getting drunk and walk to nearest gas station for more liquor in the night. He needs to get that air and freedom in the night I guess.
I have a different thread posting similar issue in the past. Husband Drinking Problem And Threatening Divorce After Arguments