circum is a prefix we use to connote some manner of going-around, perhaps a work-around, a manner of avoidance of the direct and so forth. stance noun plural noun: stances the way in which someone stands, especially when deliberately adopted (as in cricket, golf, and other sports); a person's posture, opinions, actions. "she altered her stance, resting all her weight on one leg" Changing her stance and avoiding whatever that bothered her should have worked out for that lady you talk about. @wish4miracle can try the same things (many have advised so already). Avoid (go around) what bothers her, and take a new stance at everything in life.