I am happy that someone has touched this topic. I used to feel guilty that I was the only one to think this way..People criticising this post should understand not all human beings are alike..not all good and not all bad..there are lots of shades of grey..So not everyone is lucky to have a loving parent(s).. I have read arguments that parents sacrifice their life for kids..so children should be thankful..But I feel as a parent it's one's duty to bring up kids..Even we do that..and our grandparents too would have done that. Some parents may not be bad all the time but problem arises when they don't change with the changing world. My grandfather was a very strict man..HE expected all his sons to give their salaries to him..and NOT to question him on anything..Sadly my father expects the same from my brothers..That is not possible in today's world..One can't question him..or give our view points..He would go mad..and say we have no respect for him. My mother is a cancer survivor. She is otherwise a very strong willed and a nice woman..But she doesn't get along with dad..They are always arguing..and when I or my brothers visit them..we are dragged into the argument. My mom never liked my father's side people..Even today, after 50yrs of marriage..she would narrate all stories of what her SIL said to her when she was a new bride. We keep reminding her that it's over 50 yrs and she should forget and move on..But she won't..and will not let us or my dad forget..Now we have no touch with my father's side of relatives..My aunts & uncles really loved us kids..but we can't talk to them because my mother doesn't like them.. I feel like telling my mom that it's her negativity that she has so many health issues..But dont want to hurt her.. whenever I talk to her..after a few minutes of niceties the topic changes to "Look what your dad told me yesterday' or your aunt was such a rude and heartless woman" blah blah.. After my brothers marriage she had started criticising my SILs..but I told my mom that if she wanted her sons to be with her she should keep her opinions about her DILs to herself..and not open her mouth..After a few years she understood..but God knows when she will be kind to my dad.. And as someone pointed out parents compare cousins and kids of friends who are not even 25% of what we are..Oh God..its so true..my mom's friends never tell her about the arguments they have with their kids..but exaggerate all the niceties about their sons and daughters..Same with a few of my cousins..But my parents would constantly complain to others about me and my brothers..I was really fed up..I used to tell my mom that no kid can be so nice..After a few years we came to know about the reality of these people..But it had already taken a toll of her relationship with me and my brothers.. So yes I can understand what Hridhaya is undergoing..!! My parents are otherwise nice people..but they have this other side/face..which is not visible to our friends..only we know..