Friends, My parents are temporarily staying with me and my family. It has been around 4 months now and living with them is not easy, especially my mother who is 70 years old and maintains a good health. I have had a horrific past with her before my marriage and she created lot of issues for me. Somehow I got past the troublesome period and leading a good life now. She is back and am losing my sanity. My father and mother don't get along and constantly argue and fight. They are not compatible in any way which is sad. My mother constantly looks up to her children (my brother and I) to fill the void in her life. We have tried our best (believe me here) in many ways but she is never happy. She continues to dwell in her sorrows and hold us back. As an individual too, she is extemely negative and complaining in nature about people and life. She wants me to babysit her constantly and I am tired of going back to old days when she was my only concern. Now I have my family to look after and I need my space. It took me a lot of effort and screams to make her understand that things are different now. She continues to be withdrawn from everything and it is affecting my character. I am unable to be happy and constantly wondering what to do with this woman. She will return to live with my brother in few months but I feel very sad for their life. With her around, no one can really be happy. I admire women who smile a lot and have a life of their own and who strive to keep them occupied. My mother is not interested in anything in particular but acts like she is talented and everyone else, except her, is the reason for her failure. I try to uplift her mood and insist that she comes outside with me.She would reply that she is not interested and does not want to go anywhere. Later she would question what I have done to her to make her happy. I can never expect her to come forward and take responsibility about anything, small or big.She has never maintained relationships with my father's family and we have completely lost connection with them and their whereabouts. Even she doesn't like to welcome anyone from her own family. We have become like an island and there is no love inside this dysfunctional family. On the whole, I am unable to lead an independent life ignoring her and am turning gloomy and bored. I am motivated by people who have enthusiastic outlook about life inspite of their setbacks. How much ever I work to change things around, I feel some force is always pulling me back and I will never suceed in breaking the invisible shell around me. I wonder about life of children who have happy relationship with their parents and I know I will never get the warmth and have to live with this everlasting pain.I envy those who are cheerful about their life. I am never able to engage fully with other people or friends because I am never at ease with myself. I am unable to socialize because I have ever running thoughts about this monster in my head. I am forced to be in an ever alert mode about the consequences of my behaviour and this affects my normal behaviour and my friends think I am a recluse. Today I happen to spend extra time with a friend in my apartment building because some navaratri event was going on. I got delayed and this was unplanned. After I got home, she got mad at me because I didn't inform her about the event and she would have loved to attend the same. I retorted back telling her to shut up and not create much ado about nothing. She is now threatening she wants to go back to my hometown because things went over the top. I am keeping all these matters under the wraps from my husband as things would get even messier. She will also wreck my brother's family if she happens to leave in unhappy mood. My dad is no help. He was born in a village and his interests are mainly eating and leading a simple life. Although he is contrast in nature to my mom and liked by everyone, he is very timid. He is incapable of handling my mother's emotions and lets her loose. I think if they were more compatible, the kids would not burdened like this. To be frank, I don't see the situation improving until the inevitable strikes.... I have lost lots of happy moments starting from my childhood which normally happen to a person. Life is short, I am in fear of losing the remaining.