How To Apologize Without Using Words

ChennaiExpress · Sep 8, 2018

I decided to write new thread, see previous thread for background

Ashamed Of Childish Behavior --- Screwed Things Up

How to apologize without using words. If I say "sorry", my Mother will probably get more angry and more insulting.

Instead, I am doing chores without her asking me to. Anything I possibly can. Still she is doing food shopping, laundry. In other words, chores that requires one to step out of the house.

Few days prior to the blow up I read that God blesses children that help their parents. And I thought what if helping my Mother causes me more harm.

I trying to get over this hungama

abcd5 · Sep 8, 2018

take her out for dinner/lunch
cook her favorite dish
write a letter

DDream · Sep 8, 2018

You can say "thank you"
For example , instead of saying " sorry I am late" , you can say ," thanks for waiting for me".
Gift something she likes...or do something she prefer.
If you want silence, just hug her. Whatever may the problems, she is your mom.

Amulet · Sep 8, 2018

The Thread title made me wonder how... So I looked it up on the internet.
"sorry" American Sign Language (ASL)

SinghManisha · Sep 8, 2018

Time is the biggest healer. Sometimes it’s good to not apologize or say anything. Do not overthink this. Go on with your life. Things will fall in place. Your parents are lucky to have you.
I noticed some of your paintings. You are very talented.

ChennaiExpress · Sep 8, 2018

abcd5 said: ↑

take her out for dinner/lunch
cook her favorite dish
write a letter
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She'll get furious if I utter a word.

In the beginning when I said "Good Morning" she ignored me.

Today I said "Good Morning" she grunted.

ChennaiExpress · Sep 8, 2018

DDream said: ↑

You can say "thank you"
For example , instead of saying " sorry I am late" , you can say ," thanks for waiting for me".
Gift something she likes...or do something she prefer.
If you want silence, just hug her. Whatever may the problems, she is your mom.
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I wish I can hug her, but I'm afraid she'll push me away and get more more angry

My Mother's birthday is around the corner. I wanted to gift her one of my paintings, but yesterday she was so hurt, she returned all my previous artwork I gifted her.

ChennaiExpress · Sep 8, 2018

SinghManisha said: ↑

Time is the biggest healer. Sometimes it’s good to not apologize or say anything. Do not overthink this. Go on with your life. Things will fall in place. Your parents are lucky to have you.
I noticed some of your paintings. You are very talented.
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Thank you so much.

I am trying to be good daughter to BOTH parents.

And I'm happy you appreciate my artwork

My Mothers birthday is around the corner. I'm wondering if I should give her a new painting. Yesterday she returned all the previous paintings I gifted her (since she was very hurt).

SinghManisha · Sep 8, 2018

Mother’s cannot be angry for too long with their kids. Make a painting and give it to her when she is no longer angry.
That way she will appreciate it more and you will not be hurt if she returns it back in anger.

ChennaiExpress said: ↑

Thank you so much.

I am trying to be good daughter to BOTH parents.

And I'm happy you appreciate my artwork

My Mothers birthday is around the corner. I'm wondering if I should give her a new painting. Yesterday she returned all the previous paintings I gifted her (since she was very hurt).
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nakshatra1 · Sep 8, 2018

CE you are a very good person. I feel u r always tying to be too sacrificing . Just give time , be kind and courteous and do your duty and everything will be fine .