Greetings to you, It's been a kind of you ppl to have responded to my previous doubts or confusion! Likely I got a new confusion.. I have never been in good terms with my Sil. Initially when my wedding was arranged I was excited my DH has a sis and I would get a younger sis with this. As I have an elder sibling, I knew how hard it was to accept her marriage. I missed her as I knew she will staying away from me and she would have to take up new responsibility in her new role. I didn't want my sil to feel the same n not just giving my husband free space to talk to her everyday, I wanted to connect with her as well. I brought all those gifts which I had got for my sis.Till this it had just been one way.. But things started taking a different shape all together. I'd always be the one doing stuff for her for about an year .. I got really fed up.... I never got an good gesture of response in terms of communication. Never had any response for whatever I got for sil. Even my mil kind of expected that I should continue to please her without expecting anything.. not even the courtesy to thank! I was irritated after some time and stopped doing such things... It started hurting my self respect. But inspire of all this I try talking to her in a way as she's one of the dear one's to DH. I tried telling this DH many times and he's turned me down telling she's shy!( In one DH cousin's wedding she got along with 2 guys almost of my age in just 2 days!!!! Is she really shy??!) I've reached a stage now that I should just wish her on birthday or if some good news for her.... By doing all this am I really loosing on my values as a human being. My parents ask me behave normal in spite of sil literally turning me down in front of DH. And on Ganesha Chaturti we're going to DH home.