Thank you for the reply Ashneys. You are correct. I have to see them as one person. Also, fortunatly or unfortunately he has to live with her. I don't need him to defend me. But i wish he would just ask me if what she says happened was true or there is another side of the story. I realize that him doing that won't help him in their relationship so i guess he is just happy to either keep quite or take her side. It seems like he does not try to know me outside of what she tells him about me. I have been wanting to talk to him in private for a very long time now but have been stopping myself thinking about what good if anything at all that is going to do. I can just envision him staying silent and nodding his head and walking away to tell her what we spoke about.