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How much one should open in friendship?

Discussion in 'News & Politics' started by ansh12, Jan 30, 2008.

  1. ansh12

    ansh12 Bronze IL'ite

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    Apart from parents, siblings and relatives, friends play an important role in life of all of us. We depend on our friends for our emotional needs and at time for financial as well. As we start interacting more, start coming closer, we tend to share some of our fears and personal life. It is said "Familiarity breeds contempt" and soemtimes it so happens, that the friend whom we consider our saviour becomes our persecutor. So, how open should be one in friendship?What aspects of personal life should be shared and what facts should never be disclosed

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  2. Jananikrithsan

    Jananikrithsan Gold IL'ite

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    Hi Ansh12,
    Depends on how well and how close you are to your friend. If your pal is trustworth and not the kind to discuss your private matters with anyone else then you can be a little open with that friend than with others. In case you are married then there are certain matters that are strictly private so it is better to keep it that way. Familiarity breeds contempt only when you know all that there is about the other person. Mutual trust and affectionwill go a long way in showing you whom to trust with what.
    Financial matters , personal feelings too can be discussed depending on the other person's interperetation of what you say and what solution they offer when you are in need or a listening ear.
    Hope I answered your question.
     
  3. ansh12

    ansh12 Bronze IL'ite

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    Thanks Janani

    Its very apt reply. At times most trustworthy friendship go sour, so do you have to distrust people and not disclose personal life?

    Regards
    Ansh12
     
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    reenachy New IL'ite

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    you must be able to sum up ,express ur feelings and your needs as well as listening to the feelings of others
     
  5. Jananikrithsan

    Jananikrithsan Gold IL'ite

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    Dear Ansh,
    Good to know that I helped you clear a few doubts. True friendship too needs a few barriers. It cannot sustain unless the other person feels that you a lifetime pal. Do not disclose your personal life to anyone, because only you know what you are going thru. Others might not understand the way you feel, you stick to what you are doing, though there might be suggestions the decision is always yours.
     

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