How much abuse is justified to end a marriage

hi Latha,

i am posting a little piece of information regarding sathi practice in our country.

Sati (Su-thi , a.k.a. suttee) is the traditional Hindu practice of a widow immolating herself on her husband's funeral pyre.
"Sati" means a virtuous woman. A woman who dies burning herself on her husbands funeral fire was considered most virtuous, and was believed to directly go to heaven, redeeming all the forefathers rotting in hell, by this "meritorious" act. The woman who committed Sati was worshipped as a Goddess, and temples were built in her memory.​

Sati was prevalent among certain sects of the society in ancient India, who either took the vow or deemed it a great honor to die on the funeral pyres of their husbands. Ibn Batuta (1333 A.D.) has observed that Sati was considered praiseworthy by the Hindus, without however being obligatory. The Agni Purana declares that the woman who commits sahagamana goes to heaven. However, Medhatiti pronounced that Sati was like suicide and was against the Shastras, the Hindu code of conduct. It is believed that they were not coerced, although several wives committed Sati. The majority of the widows did not undergo Sati.

<BIG Ysiu0="0" i5d6d="4">Woman Commits Suicide on Funeral Pyre
Illustration based on a Maha Sati Sculpture (Hero-stone)</BIG>​

Maha-sati stones (hero-stones) were erected in memory of brave women who committed sati and are periodically worshipped. There are not many instances of remarriage of widows in Indian history and it is believed that women preferred death to the cursed life a widow (see: Origins of the Sati System).
Many hero-stones claim that the wife has committed Sati out of tremendous love for husband, so they can be together after death, but these are not historically substantiated. One finds a large number of satis committed just after the war (like the Johar in Rajasthan (map - topics), when the women must have died to protect their honor from the invading enemies after their men perished in the battlefield.
Indian leader Rajaram Mohan Roy, through his organization Brahmo Samaj was among the first who fought to eliminate Sati. The ritual of sati was banned by the British Government in 1829 (see a timeline of Sati). However, it took a large scale social reforms by Dayanand Saraswati(of Arya Samaj), Mahatma Gandhi and the like to actually stop the practice (see: Timeline of Sati). In the modern times, there was one instance of a Sati reported in Rajasthan (late 1980s), and another in Madhya Pradesh (in year 2002) that caused a lot of controversy and social turmoil.


padma

 

Hi padma,
Thank you for the reply. There was a thread in IL, I don't remember the forum, In which I read that these practices are prevalent even today. Is'nt it shocking?
Regards.latha.:wave

 

hi Latha,

i have posted one thread in forwarded messages and jokes --- historical practices on women in india there some more are mentioned.

These are very few cases which come to light bcoz of FIR but still there are many things going on inside houses secretly noone knows. whatever women do for betterment of her life or family always fonger points her, very few enjoy life with respect and dignity.

bye
padma

 

Even i am shocked to know that her parents did not do anything to protect her.
My parents are also very traditional but for me they were always there when i faced hurdles in married life.
But still i waited for their opinion too to come out of an abusive marriage. They were more against to it than me as they could not see me suffer anymore.

 

6 years old thread.

 

Very old thread. So we don't know if op is still looking for responses.

Nevertheless wanted to add this

A number that Arya Bhatta is believed to have discovered.

 

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