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How many of you were abused as a child?

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by Godschild, Apr 23, 2010.

  1. Godschild

    Godschild Silver IL'ite

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    Today we were having an all girls lunch at office. Some how the topic of 'Child Abuse' came up. Then one of the girls narrated and incident in her life when she had experienced sexual abuse at the age of 8 by her granddad. The others expressed shocked and were initially reluctant to contribute. Then slowly each started pouring in their horrible experiences (included me as well).

    Post lunch I was wondering what triggers ppl to act in such a cruel, inhuman manner.
    Also on whether how many of us can actually stand up and speak bout the horrid incidents we went through.
    Being an expecting mother I just want to make sure my child never undergoes such trauma.

    Please go ahead and give your thoughts on the same.

    Moderators: If you feel this thread's against the forum etiquette pls delete the thread.
     
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  2. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    Sad to hear such things.
    You are God's child. I pray for a good present and future for you.
     
  3. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    I have a boy, a very little one. With the various disgusting stories I hear, I understood that even boys can be abused. :bowdown Previously I was under the wrong impression that I have to worry more if I have a girl.. hmm.

    So I make sure to teach him what is good touch and what is not. I do not know how far he understands.. But I keep telling him that if he feels uncomfortable about anything ANYBODY does even if it is someone mommy or daddy is close to, he needs to tell both of us about it.

    I assure him that if he does not like a touch then he has every right to get away AND definitely tell me about it.

    I send him for playdates only if I know the kid's mommy personally & that she would be present at home. And I make sure if there are any new members (like cousins.. etc ) other than the people I know of personally are in their house, in which case I don't send him. Also I try to combine playdates with more than one kid for some more secured feeling. And once he gets back, I ask him casually/playfully who was there.. what did they play etc.

    And I pray!:hide:

    PS: CONGRATS on your pregnancy! And I am very sorry about what you had gone through. Hope you had overcome the hurt.
     
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  4. Godschild

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    Thanks for your words Spidey.
     
  5. Godschild

    Godschild Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks Ms. True.
    Yes i have.
    But at times i do think bout it.
    I used to feel ashamed at times thinking it happened only to me.
    And also that something must have been wrong within me.
    But after listening to my friends’ story i was feeling much better.
     

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