How many Girl-FRIENDS(only friends) ur DH has/had?

Swaran,

Don't feel guilty... you have every right to be unreasonable in making such demands. That is really cute in one way, as long as that petty jealousy does not strain your relationship.

I believe as a girlfriend/lover/wife, a woman has every right to ask her man not to get close to other women, no matter what their relation is. This assuming the woman too follows the rule and doesn't act cozy with her male friends.

My DH has friends from college... simply friends who are girls. He never showed any interest to keep in touch with them... so no complains for me there. I am the only girl who he is/was ever close to. He never shows interest in speaking with other girls, so I really don't have anything to worry about. Whenever he switches to a new job, I ask him how many girls he has to work with, how old they are, etc... While I interrogate my DH, he gets pretty amused seeing me getting all worked up to being jealous :bonk Then I try to put a serious face and warn him "don't ever talk to your female colleagues anything other than work" or "why did u have to have (team) lunch with her" etc... since I honestly don't doubt my DH, I really can't put a serious face, and he keeps teasing me saying "don't try to ACT angry/jealous.. i can see a smirky smile on your face" or if I can successfully put up a serious face, he says "yes boss, what ever you say boss" ...:biglaugh

 

I am also possessive of my hubby and don't like him to have too many girls too close to him.

He has this ability to befriend and influence people rather easily and a good leader at work and in general. So he has a lot of women (and men) who get close to him in various ways. Thankfully he keeps it strictly professional and/or above board. No SMSs and/or phone calls in personal time usually.

At times when someone gets too close to him (esp. my friends or acquaintances) I do get uneasy. So far it has not been a big problem. He seems to have a knack of shooing them away when they get too demanding on his time.

 

swaran,
As long as they are just friends, then dont bother about it. Being possessive or nagging is not a positive trait. Some amount of possessive is ok and perhaps positive, beyond that it is perceived as immature and nagging.

Glad to know that you have matured now, and you are working on improving this. Thats good.
And you are right - Show in actions, he'll appreciate that. Basically give him the space to have his friends.

 

Swaran,

Maybe women feel so, because the J- gene is more active in them.

Men feel jealous too. Maybe they portray it different. Women, jump ! There is nothing as ALL women or ALL men.. it differs from person to person, than gender I guess.

As others said, when we know were to draw the line, everything is fine.

Answering your question, my hubby has no female friends as such.Most of them were colleagues and he strictly corrects me when I call them friends. For him, friends means more than just at work. I am not or havent been his friend ( I was his classmate since school to college ) , I was his date and now his wife On the other hand, I have many male friends who are common to both of us and many from Dentistry.

But sometimes, I agree that a spouse needs to give in a little or atleast for that time if the wife / husband is upset over an existing friendship instead of trying to reason out or justify the relationship. That can wait, but for the moment, just say ok and wait patiently for the time to justify. Well, that is me. But, until now, all our friends call when we both are together and the ones from our respective proffessional course call otherwise. But, all are close knit.
Though I get jealous over other things ! :crazy

 

My wife seems to have tremendous faith in me. I was never able to tease her saying how come she is so sure I have no affairs. Her answer was like, OK call that girl home someday we can all go out together! :thumbsup

I think, it all depends on the image one cultivates in ones spouse, knowing and unknowingly over the years. My wife and I have been married for now about 7 years and she seems to know me inside out. May be that is we both are expressive and what with my WFH setup for about an year now, I am like a house husband to her. She can check upon me anytime :rotfl

 

I guess that's a healthy 'unease'. I am sure your body gives out non-verbal signals to the spouse which actually helps you.

I don't think you should do anything to change that uneasy feeling.

But if you mean that the root cause of that feeling should be conveniently side tracked, way to go girl! I root for you! :thumbsup

 

Hi,

My DH is a strict person and he never speaks to girls, even social speakin.. I wonder why..:hide: Contrary to many cases, i was the one who encouraged him to be outspoken and have girl friends...

Ofcourse, my DH looks charming and there were girls who go behind him, and get angry for that... :bonk:rotfl.. But never on my DH... Poor thing, its not his fault rite:spin

But until this moment, am the only one girl who is close to my sweetie's heart... And am proud of it..

Still, I come across this question many a time from people who knows him well.. How did you manage to make him fall in love with you at all.. Thats almost incredible :biglaugh

Luv
Keerthi